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  1. I love Tacos

    Hole in the walls, can be great finds. I find the best are near pawn shops for some reason. Also if there's a cop car infront it's usually a plus, in that cops know good cheap eats. Lately my favorites are those that keep it simple, where the meat shines, the shell is glistening with oil and the addons, cilantro.. onions, pickled stuff are sparse. Don't know if its authentic, I'm seeing some good hole in the walls that are doing there meat on a gyros style spit. That can be awfully good.
  2. Is there unnecessary suffering?

    That one seems easy to me. Yes. In learning and growing some unpleasantness is involved. In stretching ones limits, growing stronger.. putting yourself out there, making new friends, going new places.. can be necessary suffering. Fulfilling ones responsibilities can be suffering. Course resisting such things probably makes them feel worse. I'd also say yes to unnecessary suffering. Seems to be too much of it the world. No lessons learned, no betterment, bettered. Just alot of pain, often caused by ignorance, greed and plain bad luck.
  3. Observations from observing Real Fights

    Uh, sure. Me and the others, Us. Everyone who doesn't opt out.
  4. Observations from observing Real Fights

    Let's see. Capital Punishment.. in some very strict, very well documented cases involving particular sadism, yes. Thus, not for rape, yet if a rape perpetrator gets killed inwardly I think.. good. For justice to work well, it needs to be separated from personal feelings of vengeance. Otherwise it risks devolving into gang prejudices. Still.. if the rapist was lying dead of his wounds.. I'd be fine with it. Personally, if say I had a gun and stopped a rapist, I hope I'd discharge at least one bullet, even after he stopped and surrendered. I don't feel that way about robbery, stuff is just stuff. Not even saying I'd kill him, but I hope I'd put a bullet somewhere, then lie about it and say whoopsie. I doubt that'll ever happen, but its the way I feel. I don't think they should be places of victimization, but what I think doesn't change reality. The fact is, many if not most are. With luck, they'll be caught, do jail time and be scared straight. Though probably, they won't be caught and might do it again, until they're caught and have there own epiphany. I don't think the penal system should be eat or be eaten, nor do I think it should be particularly pleasant, though inmates should be protected from each other, murder, rapes and intimidation should not be tolerated. More man power, supervision, technology and changing the layouts should help. You should acknowledge that a slap on the wrist, turn around courts/bleeding hearts can also make crime more prevalent. I took a class in American Prisons, the swings between rehabilitation and punishment. I think you need both, and particularly more money should be spent, after prison, in both monitoring and support so they don't fall back into crime. I think in civilization its a necessity. If you break a law, hurt, rob, steal, rape or kill, that its appropriate to have an unpleasant penalty. With my children, in my household, there are rules and responsibilities, break them and there are consequences. I've seen households without consequences and the kids do not benefit. Similarly, there should be rehabilitation and much more support after prison. I appreciate your thoughts. The Holland system of kindness overkill is interesting and worthy of setting up test cases here in the U.S, but we are a different society. Localities should have input into the rules and punishments. The government should do research and make recommendations based on pragmatism into how to best balance rehabilitation and punishment. And in my mind do a much better job of aftercare, both watching and helping those stay straight. Technology can help. Having communal work and housing available for those who choose it. I'd like to see conditioned surrender in the war on drugs. Having unbiased studies look at the whole picture of how legalization and decriminalization has affected the various levels of social structure. Studying how it's helped and hurt because I'm sure its done both. Weighing both and allowing the States to decide based on the best evidence. Some drugs should be controlled and regulated, but perhaps there's a way of doing that which side steps the whole crime/prison circle, ie specific supervised places for hard or psychedelic drugs. Similarly it'd be smart to see prison population reduced for non-violent drug crimes. Also to end crazy forfeiture without trial laws that some districts have and abuse.
  5. Observations from observing Real Fights

    I'm sorry it was only potential. I'd just as soon have a rapist dead. Good for her. A trained boxer, female or not, is a fair match against 2 untrained young thugs. I hope they're found and do time in prison, have a chance to feel what its like to be preyed on. Maybe there are times you can place some criticism on a victim, that there was behavior that increased the risk of attack, but that doesn't mean they deserve it, just that they and others can learn from it. The blame is still on the attacker and the coward, thief or would be rapist should feel the fullest punishment of the law against them.
  6. Third Eye Block?

    A bit of an aside, but I've also heard of certain chi gung practices that, after many years of practice, seem to open up skull bones. I frget the details though. I also remember a cranial sacral therapist had classes with had a device that showed how the skull subtlety moved with breathing. We think of it as hard bone, yet that may not be the whole story. Amongst some heavy practitioners there can be some weird affects on anatomy. In the book "The Life We are Given' by George Leonard & Michael Murphy had practitioners work toward amazing goals, and showed how with focus and steady practice, highly unlikely things were possible. Time, sacrifice and long term steady practice can create amazing things.
  7. Observations from observing Real Fights

    I get where you're coming from and respect it, but I've got people and things I want to protect, and I'll fight those who would hurt or take them away. Which is a reform from my youth where I also had ideas I thought needed protection.. thankfully for the most part I've given up that foolishness. Still, and undoubtedly egoic, there are times it feels good to have blood on my knuckles. Geez there's a line right out of a comic book. p.s for learning to 'fight' I have my doubts about strip mall dojos. Yet I'm glad my kids had a chance to go to them. In their traditional karate class were important lessons in honor and discipline, strength and endurance that are hard to get in our society. And an overall lesson that fighting was a last resort. Yet its an option, and standing tall and knowing how to throw a decent punch, makes it less likely you have to.
  8. Yes, you generally want something 5 or 600 pages. Hold it a few inches from your head and when a thought comes, Whack. Kidding, but imo it's not a book you need. It's your ears. Breath so quietly there is absolutely no sound. It tends to create a slow but not too slow rthym. You can no longer sniff the air and have to use slow abdominal movement. I find the focus on listening helps create a deep quiet alertness.
  9. Observations from observing Real Fights

    I'll tell you one thing. That quote won't bother me again!! But that's the awful downside of fighting. We're cued to movies where the hero wins and the next episode comes on. Life is sticky. You see the guy again and win or lose things continue or escalate. Everyone is a hero in there own mind and too often that gives an excuse for some of our worst behavior. If you have to fight, fight. But if it's an ego thing, suck it up, walk away. The world has enough violence in it. And once started you don't know when it will end, what dark events it might trigger.
  10. Writing a book

    One sad fact I was told in writing classes is that Publishers want writers who have a following. As important as the writing is, a blog/twitter/column/site following is almost as important. Publishers are much more likely to pick books from authors who have followers or a large web presence.
  11. One meal a day

    Eating is a very communal affair. Eating only one meal would inevitably create social awkwardness at times. Not the worst thing, compared to its benefits, but undoubtedly problematic.
  12. Observations from observing Real Fights

    double post :(, hit quote instead of edit
  13. I couldn't find a good thread for this so I created one. Our view of fights are heavily influenced by Hollywood and professionals. The truth is the amateur game is much different. Here's an article written by a guy who seriously analyzed 150+ fights on youtube. Analyzing what was done, and what were the results. https://www.martialjournal.com/i-watched-over-100-fights-on-youtube-heres-what-i-learned/ bits and pieces ".. Sometimes long-standing theories everyone just assumed were true, weren’t. To my frustration, when confronted with hard data that refuted their claims, many people just ignored them. Or worse, they would try and find holes in our data. Despite that, the research findings of our small, but vocal, team started to slowly influence policy decisions on campus. Ultimately, we had the truth on our side. The cold, hard numbers. For the people who never wanted anything to change, no amount of evidence would convince them. But for the people who understood that all organizations have to move forward, they listened... .. 1) Fights often have no clear winner Some readers will cringe at my use of the word “winner.” Of course on a deeper level, no one really wins in a fight. But I have to define it somehow. When your standing over your unconscious opponent, you’ve “won.” The most surprising outcome in fighting seems to be no outcome at all. 48.4% of the fights ended indecisively. In most cases, people simply got tired and stopped of their own accord. Bystanders tend to allow fights to play out, but would often step in when there was a lull in the action. In fact, it seems that fights that drag past just a handful of seconds are unlikely to end in a clear way. Most people seem to have the energy for one, explosive onslaught of punches. If that fails to end the fight, a second onslaught just won’t have the same power. Turns out, fighting really doesn’t solve much... .. 5) Almost all fights will go to the ground and stay there It’s an old cliche that “all fights go to the ground”. And basically, it’s true. Participants engaged in ground fighting 73% percent of the time. When you take out those ten-second knockouts that make up so many early finishes, the number jumps up to 83%. What’s more, only 41% of grounded fighters were able to return to a standing position. Of those that did, more than half of them returned to the ground (57%). In terms of outcomes, ground fighting has a major silver lining: violent knockouts drop dramatically on the ground, nearly by half. Only 29% of grounded fighters were knocked out or incapacitated by strikes. For standing fighters, that number jumped to 56% The last thing worth mentioning is that 57% of the fights that went to the ground happened intentionally, meaning a participant made some sort of attempt at a takedown that worked. The rest was simply a result of people falling down..." I found it interesting.
  14. Writing a book

    My favorite books tend to be spiritual travel adventures. An involving story where I can pick up some philosophy, a technique or two, as well as be inspired.
  15. Fake enlightened teachers

    I'd throw out that can learn much from a teacher who isn't 'enlightened' or a master. Imo, the beginner who goes searching Asia for a true master, may well fall behind the guy who goes to a local YMCA, learns basic yoga, learns basic tai chi, sets up an intelligent disciplined meditation schedule for a few years. Then transitions to Ashrams.. temples.. builds up connections and when they travel East, have skills and a better understanding of solid from so so.