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On feeling others energy and feelings

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Hey everyone! I’ve been a long time lurker on these forums and have repeatedly looked for answers to certain questions I’ve had for a very long time and found few answers to. I was hoping to open the topic of experiencing and feeling *others* energy and emotions, because this is my biggest „problem” and something I often contend against. Perhaps it will be if assistance to others.

 

Maybe something that amplifies this is my being female, and noticing the forum is primarily male. I was not born with this ability however it came quickly, after about a year of regular practice.

 

As an adolescent, I felt these emotions very strongly. I would walk in to a room and feel any strong emotions there were. They were overwhelming and exhausting. When I made a personal connection with someone, I would feel their entire emotional state, especially males. For me, it is very easy to feel male *qi* and then emotions if I choose to delve deeper however in the beginning the qi came with the emotions, physically being present in my body and my havinng to „chase” it out. Male energy, in my experience, is much more penetrating and invasive, and predominantly has a burning quality, which has scared me before, for fear of it being evil qi (perhaps someone has experiences relating to the quality of male qi vs negative qi. Perhaps negative qi of that nature is more naturally yang).

 

When it comes to emotions of women, I’ll typically feel an emotion, more subtle and closer to my own, and it takes me time to notice small things about it that make me realize it is not my own. Perhaps this is the nature of women’s emotions or perhaps because I am a woman the energy is more similar to my own. Typically woman’s energy also is much much more subtle and harder to distinguish than my own, and is felt more as emotion.

 

I have been living with an elderly female family member, whose heart bleeds emotion (impatience and turmoil) after surviving a life time of strife and hardship, and never having dealt with these emotions. Around her, especially in the mornings if I have not had a chance to ground myself with physical exercise/meditation/prayer, I find myself very impatient and irritated, although these are not my emotions (and she truly makes every effort to disguise them). Recently, I’ve realized the only way to protect myself from these emotions is to fill the heart center with love, perhaps causing the vessel to be filled with a higher feeling and not allowing anything external to enter. I’ve also found „living out of” my dantien to help protect me from others emotions before I realized this, by allowing them all to pass me through. Primarily, unless I focus on this, I live out of my heart center.

 

These are my experiences. If anyone would like to share their own in the name of self growth, it would be appreciated. I hope perhaps my experiences will help another on their path. Blessings :)

 

PS. Also, I’ve noticed after many years of meditation I can simply sit around and completely experience the world without thinking ;) makes me a worse conversationalist ;) Anyone else?

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Welcome euro!

You've jumped right in with a great post about a huge topic!

 

For starters, I'm curious what you practiced to develop this ability, as you wrote  "I was not born with this ability however it came quickly, after about a year of regular practice."

 

For myself, my family never talked about feelings/emotions, and for various reasons we learned (by example) not to notice or respond to most of them.  It's been a long time learning to recognize them consciously in others, even though I clearly respond to them unconsciously. The biggest thing for me is in allowing (like I have a choice, lol) people to just be where they are and letting their emotions just pass though me like wind, no judgement. Obviously, not always easy, but helps to just recognize where they are, what they're feeling, and let that just be ok.  I think getting older has made that easier.

I understand your body takes them on way more than mine ever has, and that's tough for sure.

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Several years back I received coaching in a somatic practice called zapchen.  My zapchen coach, Laura Lund, told me that I my energetic tendency was to be very "diffuse": my energy was always extending out from my body in an effort to check up on others.  There´s nothing wrong, I think, with having diffuse energy but it´s nice to have a choice, to be able to be diffuse when that seems appropriate and more concentrated inside myself at other times.  

 

In order to gain more facility gathering my energy in, Laura gave me the exercise of humming the syllable "AH" into my spine.  I just softly make that sound, over and over again, internally directing the sound into my spine.  

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