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  1. Perhaps you need a 2nd chance? (Or a third, fourth, or fifth...etc) If so, you´re certainly in good company. Lots of people like to make it appear that they´re more successful than they really are so I hope you won´t get fooled into feeling bad about yourself because of social comparisons. It´s also possible that First-Place Winner status wouldn´t make you as happy as you might think, even if you were suddenly to magically achieve it. People say to take things a day at a time, but that´s often too ambitious. Can you enoy the present moment? Better yet, can you be present for this present moment -- no matter how it feels? Be a winner at that. That might be the only winning that really counts anyway. LL
  2. What do you sleep on?

    Interesting! I´ve been reading lately about the benefits of "inclined bed therapy" and thinking of giving it a try. Any tips?
  3. What is Patriarchy

    While we´re waiting for tomorrow´s entertainment, here´s a short tea-related excerpt from the aptly named tome, Wind Walker (I kid you not), by Esther Supernault. Sazani sank into it´s comforting support, overwhelmed by the warmth and peaceful surroundings. A tiny teacup of steaming, fragrant tea was placed in her hands. "It´s made from the waterfalls my home fell into," he explained. "The water must have revived me from my dry dormant state. It is a state I have been in for hundreds of years, waiting for you to come." He smiled at her shock, his lined face wrinkling into gentle golden lines above his white beard. His age and peaceful demeanor immediately put Sazani at ease. She leaned forward eagerly, "Will you tell me your story?"
  4. What is Patriarchy

    Earl Grey always hits the spot.
  5. What is Patriarchy

    Normally I´d say I was going to get popcorn about now, but tea seems to be the theme of the day.
  6. What is Patriarchy

    This whole business of trying to have a conversation on the internet is predicated on the notion that the participants are well-intentioned rational human beings. Sadly, as is evident here, this isn`t always the case. It`s easy to get caught in the spider`s web. I`ve often imagined that the right argument could set the troll-of-the-moment right -- but there is no right argument and no winning. Some people are simply beyond reach. At least that`s been my experience. No human being ought to be dominating anybody else by virtue of their gender. Chimpanzees and hyenas might beg to differ and that`s fine; I`m not talking about them. Anybody who says different isn`t worth having a conversation with.
  7. What is Patriarchy

    I decided to look up the word patriarchy in an online dictionary. Here´s the definition according to Meriam Webster (included below). This is very much the same as Ilumairen included in the OP. As with many words, there´s some wiggle room as far as what aspects of the definition we want to focus on: the idea of descent through the male line, the idea of men being in charge, etc. Still, the meaning seems pretty clear to me. Perhaps I haven´t been following the discussion well. Is there confusion or differences of opinion about the actual definition of the word? If so, what´s the nature of the disagreement? Definition of patriarchy 1: social organization marked by the supremacy of the father in the clan or family, the legal dependence of wives and children, and the reckoning of descent and inheritance in the male linebroadly : control by men of a disproportionately large share of power 2: a society or institution organized according to the principles or practices of patriarchy
  8. What is Patriarchy

    I`m clearly ignorant. I just figured that "the patriarchy" was feminist-speak for systemic sexism. Given that I happen to believe there`s an awful lot of systemic sexism worth objecting to, I`m not opposed to that usage. That said, some words are so loaded with emotional connotation that people seeking to have a productive discussion should probably just abandon them and head for the hills; patriarchy may well be one of those words. I appreciate Armando`s acknowledgement that there are individual variations in the way people express male and female energies. Nobodies gonna mistake me for the Marlboro Man and I like to think that my particular mix of masculine gender and emotional openness (for the most part) is as valid as more traditional presentations of masculinity. @ilumairen, while I`m no astrologer I`m guessing that an eclipse is a very interesting time to be born indeed. Michael Winn has lots to say about the power of eclipses, how we can tune into the special energy available at that time to boost spiritual development.
  9. Fraudulent teacher?

    What is a teacher? Someone who can assess a student´s spiritual progress and make specific recommendations tailored to their particular level? Someone with a wide knowledge base about qi gong and spirituality in general? Someone self-realized (awakened) to the point where their very presence radiates spiritual energy that ready students can pick up? or just.... Someone whose learned something valuable and is willing to share with others? Several here have mentioned honesty. Honesty is the best insurance against fraud. Nothing wrong with teaching something without being a Daoist Wizard as long as you don´t mislead people about your own abilities and knowledge. I started to learn piano from my elementary school teacher when I was in third grade. She was great. She knew the basics and was happy to pass them on for a fair price. When it was clear that I was serious and had absorbed what she had to give she sent me to another teacher. That´s the way it should be.
  10. Gratitude for the Male Patriarchy

    A relationship can be a delicious stew with lots of rich flavors that dance on the tongue, a stew that`s nourishes the soul down to the last bite because no single spice is allowed to take over the dish. Yes, there might be healthy dominance and submission -- of both parties. Sometimes one person specializes in bringing home the bacon while the other fries it up in the pan. That`s OK. But we are more than the masks we wear -- provider, homemaker, mom, dad -- and beyond the inevitable conflicts about sex and money and taking out the trash, beyond our cultural programming about what it means to be male or female, beyond our fear of honest connection and the nasty ways we pretend not to be afraid, beyond all that we can find -- if we`re curious and tenacious and bold --the deep conviction that we are where we belong and coming on home.
  11. Haiku Chain

    Wheels within a wheel I am so over James Bond It`s a good song though.
  12. I`ll join the chorus of voices (Freeform, Thelerner) who noticed that the lonely man quoted in the OP is a 35 year old man unwilling to consider woman close to his own age. You gotta wonder about these "spiritual" men who insist on dating twentysomethings, even as they themselves hit the threshhold of middle age. Male or female, young or old, there are a lot of lonely people out there. To me, true spirituality is about coming home to oneself. It`s about finding a spacious acceptance of one`s human foibles and loving warmth -- on the inside. Feeling complete within oneself, a person naturally finds the prospect of an intimate relationship with someone else less harrowing. There`s less desperation, less conflict...less lonliness.
  13. Gratitude for the Male Patriarchy

    There`s certainly a lot of man-bashing out there, no doubt about that. It`s important to think of masculinity as the positive force in the world that it is, just as femininity is a positive force. I disagree though with the notion that people "should" act like their genitals. Some people with female anatomy are naturally more yang and vice versa. As we celebrate positive masculinity, lets not force all men to fit into any one mold.
  14. Gratitude for the Male Patriarchy

    Continuing the theme of gratitude, here`s a poem I love by W.S. Merwin. ~ Thanks Listen with the night falling we are saying thank you we are stopping on the bridges to bow for the railings we are running out of the glass rooms with our mouths full of food to look at the sky and say thank you we are standing by the water looking out in different directions. back from a series of hospitals back from a mugging after funerals we are saying thank you after the news of the dead whether or not we knew them we are saying thank you looking up from tables we are saying thank you in a culture up to its chin in shame living in the stench it has chosen we are saying thank you over telephones we are saying thank you in doorways and in the backs of cars and in elevators remembering wars and the police at the back door and the beatings on stairs we are saying thank you in the banks that use us we are saying thank you with the crooks in office with the rich and fashionable unchanged we go on saying thank you thank you with the animals dying around us our lost feelings we are saying thank you with the forests falling faster than the minutes of our lives we are saying thank you with the words going out like cells of a brain with the cities growing over us like the earth we are saying thank you faster and faster with nobody listening we are saying thank you we are saying thank you and waving dark though it is W.S. Merwin