forgiveness without repentance....

[old3bob]

 

We hear and see examples of people extending unconditional forgiveness for harm done to them  but sometimes without there also being the very important step of some type of repentance by the one that did them harm! 

 

Anyway I copied the excerpt below as an example about that from a much longer text...(with Bible related sayings although I think not limited to Abrahamic religions)

 

"But wait! I missed a step. Something VERY important has to happen first. Something that EVERYONE forgets when they talk about MERCY and forgiveness.

 

Luke 17:3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and IF HE REPENT, forgive him.

 

Did he say to forgive your brother for his sins against you?  NO! He said REBUKE HIM! Judge him for his sins against you, and TELL HIM HE WAS WRONG! And IF HE REPENTS, IF HE REPENTS THEN, and ONLY THEN, FORGIVE HIM!

 

That’s what He said. IF HE REPENT is in that scripture. And it’s there for a reason. “forgiving” a brother without him first repenting to you, is tantamount to “forgiving” a shark for biting your arm off, as it swims around for a bigger piece. (not a very good example imo since a shark is not human and biting is in its nature) But hold on, you say – Christ said to forgive a brother SEVENTY TIMES SEVEN – and should we do no less? You’re absolutely right! We should do EXACTLY what Christ said and FORGIVE THEM EACH TIME! But wait… in the very next verse here it says…

 

Verse 4:  And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.

 

For EACH AND EVERY ONE of those SEVEN TIMES in that day that he sinned against you, he has to turn to you and say “I REPENT!“ or, in our language ”I am sorry! I was wrong!” and THEN – ONLY then, mind you – are you to forgive him! "

 

Then again there is also the aspect or act of not burning oneself up with bitterness if repentance was never given, and thus not easy to deal with also "seventy times seven" ! 

Edited 9 hours ago by old3bob

[Sanity Check]

King Saul of israel attempted to hunt down and kill David twice.

 

The way David handled both instances is a better example of how to deal in forgiveness and repentance, I think.

 

After the 2nd attempt David said: "there will not be a 3rd time" and moved to another country.

 

 

[Lairg]

A friend phoned a few days ago, sounding hoarse and complaining about her throat.  I asked her if she could visualize a rope around her neck.  She could.  "Who is holding the rope?"    She could see her younger son.

 

So:

- Forgive yourself for being such a shit that he needed to hang you

- Forgive him for having had to hang you

 

A minute later her voice had become normal and she was feeling much better

 

There were more family members involved but  I shortened the account.

 

The events occurred earlier on this timeline

 

 

 

 

Edited 10 minutes ago by Lairg

[Cobie]

 

9 hours ago, old3bob said:

… IF HE REPENT, forgive him …

 

Totally right. I posted about it too, a while ago now and can’t find it back. Was sth like forgiveness is only for after the perpetrator

1) understands it was wrong

2) is sorry

3) has now acquired the skills not do it again

4) has now the mindset to never want to do it again

5) apologises sincerely

6) asks for my forgiveness sincerely

 

All else is aiding and abetting

 

 

Edited just now by Cobie