Cobie

That’s not exactly what I see as being ‘one with the Dao’. You’re probably just kidding with us (with all of your posts). I’m going to save my “Sanity” by putting you on ignore.

That’s what I call decline. It’s a trap; easy to go forward, difficult to go back. Like the eel traps that I helped my dad to set out as a kid.

智 (zhi4) the wrong type of ‘knowledge’ (agreeing with society will further your career) 知 (zhi1) the right type of knowledge (helps you to become one with the Dao)

@Nungali only one item left, what did you do with the rest?

It’s nothing to worry about. But you must leave all spiritual practices behind for a while. For now, let daily living be enough in itself, learn to appreciate the mundane. Focus on grounding. Eat healthy. Go for walks in nature, do more exercising. No porn. Try doing voluntary work. Your mind is playing you tricks, do not feed the problem by giving it attention and the problem will disappear. Be well.

What can’t be changed, I let go of (I learned to be in control of my own mind).

Hi Kasper, welcome to the forum.

Forgiveness imo is only allowed after the perpetrator has: (1) fully understood what was wrong about it (2) never wants to do it again and has learned to control it (3) genuinely feels sorry about it and very humbly asks me for my forgiveness. If these 3 conditions are not met, forgiveness is imo not allowed as that would be ‘enabling’.

I embrace my anger. All emotions are there because I need them, they all have a function. Anger is a very useful emotion, it makes me aware that boundaries have been transgressed and it gives me the energy to take action. It naturally runs it’s course and disappears again once the problem has been dealt with.

strong silent type

“hello” to you too, welcome to the forum.

my highlighting Ah to be young and to still think everyone else is to blame and not know as yet that’s a complete dead end. Happy days.

I don’t think it will end, but I feel you’ve got your heart in the right place.

reminded me of DDJ ch. 70 [start ch 70 MWD B (DIO)] 吾 言 易 知 也 wú yán yì zhī yě - We say: change awareness, 易 行 也 yì xíng yě - change behaviour. 而 天 下 ér tiān xià - But in our society 莫 之 能 知 也 mò zhī néng zhī yě - it’s not possible to be aware, and 莫 之 能 行 也 mò zhī néng xíng yě - it’s not possible to be alright. … [end ch 70 MWD B (DIO)] 是 以 圣(聖) 人 shì yǐ shèng rén - Therefore a ‘wise and moral’ person 被 褐 bèi hè - meets with the darkness 而 怀(懷) 玉 ér huái yù - and yet has a pure mind.