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  1. Xing and Ming cultivation

    What is the difference in terms of inner development?
  2. I mostly perceive men to have hoter energy and women to have cooler energy. While the women you feel are not that physically attractive to you your energy body might find their energy body attractive to your brains surprise. That started happening to me once I started to perceive energy in myself and others.
  3. Qigong that reduces anger

    I have done a lot of six healing sounds and the liver sound cleansed out anger very effectively. It also allowed me to dig deeper into the wounds that caused the anger. I used to do all six sounds 3 times as is a standard small practice and do more on one or two organs where I felt more pressing emotional issues or felt like working more to get things resolved. I also remember a user on the forum here writing he used the liver sound to overcome a pretty deep anger problem. It took him two years of practice to completely overcome it.
  4. Thoughts on Energy Arts / B.K. Frantzis

  5. Thoughts on Energy Arts / B.K. Frantzis

    Healing first and awakening second. Martial arts skills are a nice bonus but not something I am looking for in the way many here seem to be looking for the most powerful IMA for fighting. I like tai chi and want to have it as a regular part of my practice but its more important to me that I like the way the form looks and how it feels to move in it and the way the teacher moves than that it cultivates the most internal power for push hands etc. So for example I really like the way the teacher Hai Yang moves in his Chen tai chi on youtube but find the Wu style forms of Frantzis totally unappealing and would prioritize learning from someone like Hai Yang rather than Bruce even if Bruce had much more internal power and could teach that better than Yang. I am more of dancers in my desire for Tai Chi than a martial artist though I do practice Muay Thai and hope to have Tai Chi help my fighting skills there. I prioritize healing first because I have some serious traumas to work through and my physical health has taken a toll from years of burnout coupled with unhealthy living. I also have had some very serious grounding issues which have gotten a lot better but I still need a lot of grounding. After that is in order I care about awakening. Very fire based systems are probably not a good place for me to start. I live in Norway and there aren't many teachers around but I am willing to travel and learn online. Its important to me that its possible to get certified to teach after some time and that I won't have to spend many, many years until I am maybe allowed to do so.
  6. Thoughts on Energy Arts / B.K. Frantzis

    Would you be willing to say who you would recommend instead?
  7. Thanks a lot for the replies everyone. Much appreciated! I will get back to this thread in a day or two.
  8. Thanks for the reply! But isn't the goal of embryonic breathing for the breath to stop? And isn't that considered an extraordinary healthy state to be in? I dont like controlling my breath much. I could do it every now and then but as my main practice I would never do that. And wouldn't this form of circular breathing always require some form of controlling the breath? Even if very subtle?
  9. I have recently become interested in Bruce Frantzis Water Method.However, there is one aspect of it that makes me skeptical if the system is a good fit for me. He describes his longevity breathing as a form of breathing where one breathes without the pauses between the in breath and the out breath and between the out breath and the in breath. And this form of breathing is used in his form of yoga. I'm not sure if its also used in his Nei Gong. I'm sure this form of breathing can have its benefits and I`d be up for practicing it for some of the time, but I am skeptical of using it as the general form of breathing in qigong as I like breathing with pauses and this seems the most natural to me. If I meditate by just watching the breath the pauses between the breaths become larger and larger until the breath almost stops and for some rare periods seems to have stopped entirely. This make me think the pauses are natural and important. As far as I have understood the goal of embryonic breathing is also to have the breath stop and this is seen as a very healthy and energetically powerful state. When I observe the movements and the pauses of the breath the pauses seem to have an energy of stillness to them. And this energy expands as I become aware of it. So it seems to me that the pauses are critical for stillness to increase. Which in turn makes me skeptical of breathing without pauses. In the Longevity Breathing Yoga book Frantzis writes that the pauses in peoples breath creates stress whereas the continuous circular breathing makes relaxation easier. I can see that the pauses in regular stressed out peoples breath could function like that and be based on tension. But the pauses that show up during meditation seems based on relaxation and seem to increase relaxation. So I don't really understand why breathing without pauses should be more relaxing then having them elongate. I`m fine with practicing this form of breathing as one part of and overall system. I'm sure it has some benefits. But if its a form of breathing to be used all the time both in his yoga and his Nei Gong I would find this unappealing. Can someone experienced in the Water Method explain how this works to me?
  10. removing sexual blockages

    If you look at my posts in the past you will find some perspectives that are relevant for your situation from me and others posting i the same threads. Just go to my profile and press past posts and then look at posts in threads about topics relating to sex. Most of those are quite far back in my posting history I think. As for sexual blockages that whole area is often filled with blockages. I came across a guy at the post orgasmic illness syndrome that had struggled with negative symptoms after any sort of orgasms and the did feldenkrais method or something similar and after certain blocks disappeared started feeling fine after orgasms.
  11. Some realism about the claims of a matriarchal past.
  12. I have never ever read or heard anyone suggesting a woman who is with a man who is screaming at her and being an asshole just needs to be heard and the solution is for the woman to improve because what the man wants her to see isn´t getting through her thick head. I doub`t I ever will. Great example of how men are always held to a much higher standard in how we treat women than women are in how they treat men. He is always the responsible one and she is the innocent one. If he acts badly it is his fault, if she acts badly it is his fault. Even in the church it is like that: Despite what everyone believes women are as, probably slightly more physically violent in relationships and they more often start the violence than men do when the violence is mutual. This is heavily researched and has been known for decades but have been systematically and successfully covered up by feminists. The most violent relationships are actually lesbian relationships: A good site for men struggling with abusive women:
  14. Taoist Approach to Dating

    This actually comes pretty close IMO: You don't really need to do or say much of anything. There is already tension between men and women. By definition that tension is sexual. It's always lurking just beneath the surface. If it was acceptable I believe people everywhere would be having care-free sex with multiple partners all the time. This tension is so dangerous it often leads to complete strangers having sex in less than 10 minutes. This tension is why some men feel the need to cover women head to toe in burkas. It's also why women know it's dangerous to put themselves in a situation where they are alone with you. Do Less, Not More Just by showing up, without doing anything, there is already sexual tension between you and women. It is natural and automatic. That means: 1) There is really nothing "special" you need to do or say 2) Most women are already naturally attracted to you Anti-Manifesto It is my belief that it's not so much as you need to do or say "special" things to CREATE attraction as much as you just need to NOT do the small things that reduce the sexual tension that is already there. And eventually kill it forever. - talking - laughing - reacting - fidgeting - bailing her out - supplicating facial expressions I consider this an anti-manifesto because most strategies usually focus on what you need to do or say. There is nothing to say. There is nothing to do. Your whole life you have been doing things to lessen tension. You have always tried to make everybody else around you feel more comfortable at your own expense. You do this with your friends, your co-workers and especially the women you like. When things get tense or awkward you're the big clown making everyone laugh and feel comfortable. Even when girls reject you, you are more worried about their comfort level than your own. You don't want her to feel awkward. Aw! This is bad because doing things to help women feel more comfortable with the sexual tension will be viewed by her as supplication. A woman is never going to be attracted to a man that can handle LESS sexual tension than she can. In the end it always seems to come down to who wins the little tension battles: Eye Contact: who is going to look away first Introduction: who pulls their hand away first Silence: who gives in and talks first Resistance: who tries to diffuse the awkward moment first Who breaks down and needs to have a talk about "what is going on" first Lets look at a few subtle ways guys reduce the sexual tension in their interactions with women: Opening & Silence The reduction of tension starts right away. Most guys will use a social opener or make up an excuse to start the conversation. This may help you and her both feel comfortable, but is that really such a good idea? Right from the beginning guys are scared of silences. In fact right after you introduce yourself you want to pause for a second and give her a chance to contribute. Instead what guys usually do is just assume it's their job to talk and entertain the whole time. It all comes off as they are trying to qualify themselves instead of the other way around. (The person talking is the person qualifying). When silence happens, as it always will, who feels the pressure to talk first. Seductive Listening & Facial Expressions Another way guys break sexual tension is by making supplicating facial expressions when listening. Instead of using this opportunity to bask in the natural tension of the moment guys get wide-eyed, flash goofy smiles and do lots of head nodding. And don't forget the nervous throw away lines like "oh my god that's so funny". Instead you want to keep relatively quiet and use more of a blank stare when listening. Similar to a poker players face. By listening intently but not giving her much feedback she will feel like she needs to qualify herself to you. Escalation & Resistance Anytime you get verbal or physical resistance there will be even more tension in the air. This is good news. Resistance is great! But if you react to the resistance verbally (ie. trying to diffuse the awkwardness by making a joke) you will kill that tension. The same thing happens if you look sad and become pouty. If you don't react to her resistance it never becomes real. It's not official. It's like it never happened. Being unreactive and keeping composed lets you be very persistent without coming across needy. Tests/Asd Many times it's not just you. When women become aroused they will try to reduce the tension by baiting you to break rapport. Of course you fall for this trap because you think you need to break rapport to create sexual tension. See the problem? The sexual tension is already there. Even witty comebacks and reframes can reduce tension. As such, tests are best handled this way. Hold seductive eye contact, smile and turn your head away slowly. If her test is due to a legitimate sexual comfort issue then your response can be delivered in a sexual but serious tone. ie. ~ We are not having sex tonight. We're both adults. We will do whatever we are comfortable with. Bailing Her Out When you ask women to exchange numbers, meet up or come home with you, you should just ask her and then shut the [email protected]#$ up. When women start stalling or making excuses guys always seem to bail them out by saying something. They crumble under the pressure. Instead don't say anything and move slightly closer to her. Let the awkward moment linger. The pressure is on her. Let her feel bad for breaking rapport with you. If you can just keep your mouth shut long enough women will often come around on their own and agree to whatever you were asking for. A good rule is to always choose the option that produces the most tension. For example if you want to set up a meet it's better to call girls vs. text them. When you text girls you let them off the hook and make it easy for them to say NO. Of course it's even better if you ask her out face to face. Anytime a woman thinks you are doing something because you fear tension (ie. using a bet as an excuse to ask her out) she is going to lose attraction for you. Risk Creepy As I have discussed before you want to embrace awkwardness and risk creepy. You want her breathing heavy and get her heart beating faster. That's because these symptoms mimic the signs of her being attracted. This tension is a good thing. You want it to be a bit awkward. You don't want things to feel too comfortable. How Dare You! Not breaking the tension can be even harder for new guys with less experience. You will be tested more. Women will look at you like how dare you be so confident. Plus, if you think of yourself as not traditionally "good looking" you will automatically think you need to DO STUFF to make women attracted to you. Actually it's just the opposite. Guys need to do less. The things you are doing now might be getting reactions, but they are also reducing the tension. It's very subtle but when guys believe they don't have a shot with a woman, they say or do things to sabotage their chances. The funny thing is at the beginning the sexual tension and attraction was there. But because they didn't believe she was attracted, that tension made them feel awkward. So of course they were the ones to break it off first. The key to assuming attraction is to remember that on some level there is already sexual tension between you and most women. This tension exists naturally. An automatic connection if you will. As such, your focus shouldn't be on what "special things" you need to say or do, but rather just on not breaking the natural tension and attraction that is already present. Do less. 60