The radical honesty thread (also AMA)

[Haribol]

Alright, so nothing is hidden to God anyway, so Id like to do a little purging. As my mother used to say, if something is bothering you and you keep it for yourself, the troll grows and grows. Once you let it out, it goes poof. The sun turns the trolls to stone. Further more, I belive autenthicity is healing to all. Hope youll join me. The only thing ill keep for my self, is things that could be hurtfull to groups of people or people who might be reading this. Hope you will join me in this exercise:

- today i took morphin

- I dont like my family

- I wont clean untill it is REALLY neccessery

- average screen time last 7 days: 8 hours

- I never go to sleep without having a podcast/audiobook/music or likewise in the background, to avoid the stillness

- I dont pay bills. (1) Interrest is theft, (2) im broke, (3), I belive that they will just disapear

Edited December 29, 2025 by Haribol

[Lairg]

It is fortunate you do not believe in karma.

 

But that too is an interesting experiment.

 

I tried not believing in gravity - not really a success.

[Cobie]

 

1 hour ago, Haribol said:

I wont clean untill it is REALLY neccessery

 

A clean house is the sign of a broken computer. (unknown) 

 

Edited December 29, 2025 by Cobie

[Cobie]

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Edited December 30, 2025 by Cobie

[liminal_luke]

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(Edited because I decided against radical honesty.  I do, however, admire your courage Haribol.)

Edited December 29, 2025 by liminal_luke

[Cobie]

@liminal_luke Read it just in time then.  Made sense to me. You’re a good egg. 
 

 

Edited December 29, 2025 by Cobie

[Haribol]

58 minutes ago, Lairg said:

It is fortunate you do not believe in karma.

 

But that too is an interesting experiment.

 

I tried not believing in gravity - not really a success.

 

[Nungali]

2 hours ago, Haribol said:

Alright, so nothing is hidden to God anyway, so Id like to do a little purging. As my mother used to say, if something is bothering you and you keep it for yourself, the troll grows and grows. Once you let it out, it goes poof. The sun turns the trolls to stone. Further more, I belive autenthicity is healing to all. Hope youll join me. The only thing ill keep for my self, is things that could be hurtfull to groups of people or people who might be reading this. Hope you will join me in this exercise:

 

I'm going to bounce off you ; 

 

 

2 hours ago, Haribol said:

- today i took morphin

 

I wish I could !  I been in pain for three months with this shoulder injury ... only just now recovering ... constant pain is grind ... I need a rest from it .

 

But I am now allergic to the forms of morphine described  ... cant take it . I probably would have had some if I could . 

 

Occasional I lash out and drop a couple of panadol osteo . 

 

2 hours ago, Haribol said:

- I dont like my family

 

I dont 'especially like'  mine ... just because they are family ; if I like you or not it is not based on blood connections .

 

 

2 hours ago, Haribol said:

- I wont clean untill it is REALLY neccessery

 

I think I passed that point a few weeks back .  

 

2 hours ago, Haribol said:

 

 

 

 

 

2 hours ago, Haribol said:

- average screen time last 7 days: 8 hours- I never go to sleep without having a podcast/audiobook/music or likewise in the background, to avoid the stillness

 

I like the stillness .

 

2 hours ago, Haribol said:

- I dont pay bills. (1) Interrest is theft, (2) im broke, (3), I belive that they will just disapear

 

I dont have bills  ( just the phone )  ... I do have expenses  ( eg . no power bill but occasionally  I have to spend money on solar system ) 

 

YOu are right , bills will disappear ... well, transform actually  , often into summonses . 

[Haribol]

@Nungali radical honesty can be positive to: I’m eternally grateful for having come in contact with you 

[Nungali]

You are forgiven ... my son 

 

 

[old3bob]

 

anyone who jumps out of airplane without a parachute is nuts to say the least, those with a parachute less so.

 

 

Edited December 30, 2025 by old3bob

[Nungali]

10 hours ago, old3bob said:

 

anyone who jumps out of airplane without a parachute is nuts to say the least, those with a parachute less so.

 

 

 

If you only watch from 1:46 - 1:50  ... I bet no one has done that before  in mid air      

[Haribol]

15 hours ago, Nungali said:

 

If you only watch from 1:46 - 1:50  ... I bet no one has done that before  in mid air      

I bet you are wrong. Fairly confident even. On a tangengibly related note, there https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mile_high_club. Take activity that humans do, and I am pretty sure that at least two has engaged in love making during it. 

[Haribol]

This is from my journal (Mathias the scientiest) here on daobums. Id like to share it hear as well:

 

Reflections 29.12-04.01:

 

All in all I think im happy with this period. The experiments where as follows:
 

- Carry a bag with a notebook, nectar of devotion, my chating beeds and a water bottle everywhere

- Sauna three times minimum

 

On the sauna part, I did as intented, on the first one, mostly. Night to saturday I did not sleep at all. The reason? Amphetamines and screentime. I am tempted to write this is stupid doing, but I wont do that. Reason being, this is far from the first time it happens, and rather than judge myself, id like to understand me as I would another. The above kind of ties in to the experments as well.

 

On the  morning after that sleepless night, I was leading the sauna sermony. That is to say, wishing people welcome, regulating the atmosphere and keeping the fire going, literally and figureativly. This was about three hours, with two different groups. Cant say I felt very drawn to hosting on zero sleep, but you know, responsibilites. I am happy that I walked (that is to say, not drive) the 40 minutes or so to the sauna and the coast. This gave me time to focus on the breath and the moment, while taking in a landscape quite a few people would consider among the most beautiful on our little planet (allthough there are no lack of beauty anywhere really). On the way, two helpfull thoughts entered: one how f small I am. How small we all are. Watching the fjords and the mountains, it becomes very clear that I am indeed very small. All of us. And that was liberating. Second, the guests where obviously there not because they wanted to experience me, but to enjoy the sauna. In their eyes, I am really not that important, and my responsibility is just to make it as smooth of an experience for them as possible.

 

So, this was a three hour session, with two different sets of guest. The first one, went okay. Not great, but okay. When I wasnt entireley present, some other experienced saunamasters (as we call ourself ) was being very helpfull. In an hour or so I was back into it. Second half went great, all guests leaving with smiles and thanking me for the experience. So that is another important takeaway from this experience; humanities helpfull nature. When people see me being a little "off", they want to help out, just as I would do for them. It is okay not to be 100% all the time.

 

So, for the period 05.01-12.01 I want to keep the experiments from the previous period: 

 

- Carry a bag with a notebook, nectar of devotion, my chating beeds and a water bottle everywhere

- Sauna three times minimum

As well as add:

 

- waking up the same time everyday, no matter what. I think I will set it at 08.00. 

- Physical journaling as a way to empty my mind.

- Walk to places I need or want to be

- Breath in that PRANA

- Visit temple, lets say... three times.

 

And now, Ill go prepare some food for the people.

 

Wish you a good week, Hare Krishna!

 

Edit: aaaalso, the alarm clock woke me up with the following qoute: "walk by faith, not by fear." Good, no? Fitting, certainly.

 

edit two:

 

Om Sri Lakshmi!

The power of now is here now!

 

Edited Sunday at 09:52 AM by Haribol

[thelerner]

A bit of radical honesty is good, like a wake-up slap.  A realistic look at where you, your relation to others and obstacles around you.  Too much radical honesty is like slapping yourself, then moving on to slap others.  It can get abusive and the ego's excuse to play martyr.  

 

At New Years celebration there was some positive radical honesty of thanks.  And it was the glue that binds us.  The darker side of radical honesty, I don't feel like sharing mine.  Perhaps in the next weekend or two, I'll take out the rocket stove, light it up, take out water and whiskey and open the subject up to a late night chat with some friends.  

[liminal_luke]

Elizabeth Gilbert, author of the much-acclaimed book Eat, Pray, Love, recently wrote about her desire to murder her terminally-ill drug-addicted lesbian lover.  Not everyone considers radical honesty a virtue, and response to Gilbert´s confession has been decidedly mixed.  Should she have saved the more gruesome details of her relationship for an intimate fireside chat with close friends?  I think so.  I´ll save the juiciest details of my own misadventures for those who deserve my heart. 

[Haribol]

@thelerner @liminal_luke

the golden mean?

 

No but reallly, I agree with you. These things isn’t something I’d share with every and anyone. Reason I did it here on daobums, is I consider you kind hearted people and in many ways… friends.

 

🎉

[liminal_luke]

10 hours ago, Haribol said:

 

. Reason I did it here on daobums, is I consider you kind hearted people and in many ways… friends.

 

 

I´ve also found the Bums a mostly kind-hearted group.  It sounds like you have Good Forum Karma!  I hope you continue to find this a welcoming, accepting place for many years to come.