VELLY
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I am often fascinated by the behavior of people in the modern world. There are numerous contradictions in their actions and beliefs. For instance, I have a friend who holds a government position but engages in corrupt practices. Surprisingly, he also donates a significant amount of money. He has developed his own set of values, which can be seen as contradictory. He argues that donating the money earned through corruption absolves him of any wrongdoing, as the act of giving back mitigates the harm caused. I find this way of thinking truly astonishing. This example is just one among many. Recently, I had a conversation with a friend about adultery, and he expressed the view that it is wrong to initiate such actions. However, if a woman approaches or shows interest, he believes it would be acceptable to engage in such behavior. These double standards are prevalent in various aspects of people's lives. Many individuals who appear to be devoutly religious or spiritual also struggle with strong desires and lust. People have a knack for justifying their own questionable behaviors. I must admit that I, too, have found myself in conflicting situations at times. This constant exposure to contradictory behavior has left me thoroughly confused. Is morality not an integral part of spirituality? Can a person with low moral standards still consider themselves highly spiritual?
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Morals are influenced by individual values, while ethics encompass broader societal expectations and norms. I am more concerned with morals here, let's say I find a wallet on the road. My moral values are such that I think it is a reward given by God and I decide to keep it. Whereas ethical standards emphasize returning lost items to the owner. Many a times we know that something is wrong according to the rules set by society or religion yet we justify our wrongdoings by our own moral standards. What is confusing to me is that how does the cycle of karma work then? Does it boil down to intentions? But that is still confusing as I may do all types of wrong things without hurting anyone. Exploitation is a good example of this. I may misuse someone vulnerable for personal gains. Spirituality for me is journey of connecting with someone greater than ourselves who guides us during good and bad times.In Bhakti Marg, individuals cultivate a deep and heartfelt love, devotion, and surrender to a chosen deity or a personal form of the divine. I see people with all kinds of bad behaviour reciting the name of God. I see them happy also. I just doubt God sometimes and cycle of Karma. Kindly guide
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That is all true @Gerard. However the question remains : If morality is subjective, then how come karma ( or laws of universe) work? Are morality and spirituality interconnected?
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I have been doing masturbation for many years. I am going to get married soon and my erections are weak and premature ejaculation is also there. Can you suggest some herbs or remedial measures I can take to avoid the embarrassment? I checked the website by Dr. Lin (actionlove.com). It seemed legit but the medicines cannot be ordered in my country. I am thinking of using some of the herbs used by him as a supplement. To name a few : Panax ginseng, American Ginseng, Damiana, Pumpkin seed, Saw palmetto, pygeum bark, Nestle root, Mucuna pruriens, Tribulus terrestris, Gingko biloba. Does anybody have experience have these medicines? What are your views about Dr. Lin of (actionlove.com). Any help would be much appreciated. Thanks.
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I want to learn Tao sexual practices such as non ejaculatory orgasms. I have been looking for some teachers here and there, but there is so much of conflicting information on the internet. I am going to mention few names here : https://www.johnathanwhitelifestyle.com/multi-orgasmic-man - johnathan white https://www.nakuladas.com/. - Nakula das https://www.awakenedintent.com/blog/sexual-energy-and-semen-retention-for-men - Chris Bale https://www.tantradharmacenter.com/ejaculation-mastery - Devi Ward https://healingtaousa.com/sexual-qigong-jade-eggs/ - Micheal Winn https://www.taylorjohnson.life/semen-retention-mastery/ - Taylor Johnson There are some teachers like Lujan Matus who teach sexual tao practices only to the initiated. Can anybody help me to select the best or the most accurate teachers who has least flaws in their teaching. I do know that this area of tao has no one guru who is 100% accurate. But any ideas would be appreciated. If you have some list of best content please share. It will help the new ones entering this area.
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After reading answer from @freeform and others, I am worried that these things are just a scam. They can also be damaging for my physical and mental health. Only you have mentioned that not everything is black which is sold under the umbrella of sexual practices. So the one you have suggested me Body electric. Have you used these practices? If yes, how was the experience?
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May be you are right. Why is this motive wrong Sir? Expecting a healthy and fulfilling sexual life is a bad motive? Please enlighten.
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Don't know if I am wrong, but yes. Who would not love a better sex life?
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I am aware about Mantak Chia's program and it's dangers. That's why I did not mention his name in the list. Anyways, all these gurus and teachers make so many claims and promise a better and fulfilling sex life. My question is if they are wrong then why is there so much hype surrounding it? What else are you going to suggest instead of these programs? Finally, there must be some people with accurate knowledge about these practices. They may not be so mainstream but they must be somewhere. There is one shaman master Lujan Maths who seemed very secretive about this kind of knowledge. He is very selective about the students whom to teach this stuff. May be he knows about the ins and outs of it. I could not find any of his article or book about it. What would you suggest?
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How to do this? It is my question. Any tutorial or video?
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Yes, this seems very logical and accurate. I would definitely try it. I hope you don't mind asking one more question. The cardiovascular activities we do like jogging, sprinting and soccer. Do these activities account for breathing exercises? There is no control over breath in these exercises so I don't think that they are. Anyway, your opinion would be insightful.
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I do all these things man. Still if you see it as 20% then I doubt your knowledge.
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I am not aware about Taiji but I would definitely try yoga. It also involves breathing exercises. Are these herbs useless without practising yoga or taiji? Why are you saying this that internal damage cannot be cured by external medication.? Millions of people don't have access to this kind of knowledge and they are also cured with herbs. Kindly elaborate.
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Oh really, It's first time I have heard something like that (No disrespect). If you see my kidney health as 20% , provide me a solution also to make it 100 % . How quickly can I restore my kidney health. There must be some other more practical way to check kidney health. Let me know that also. Why the herbs won't work for me. I am a regular gym-goer and eat 1.5 times protein of my bodyweight and your words are really discouraging.
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I was also going to ask the same.
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The efficacy of majority of herbal medicines has always been questioned by science. The ancient systems of medicine like Ayurveda, Accupressure are termed as pseudo science. However, enough people claim to get cured by these systems and I think it's the reason why these systems have survived for so long. In my opinion, herbs definitely have some impact on body but these changes are minutiae and hence unobservable to a worldly man. In fact, the research done on these medicines is often of shorter duration and not done in collaboration with other supporting herbs. Majority of ancient medicine systems deal with body as a whole unlike modern medicine which is known for its expertise in dealing with each body part separately. My aim of asking this question on this forum is that many of the individuals here are involved in spiritual practices. Spiritual people have much better body mind connections and they have deeper understanding of bodily functions. Does anybody have anything solid in this regards? Are herbs really effective to treat diseases? Please share your thoughts.
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Hi community, I have a short story to tell and one request that please don't judge me. I know that I can get very useful advice here because many of you have read great scriptures and some of the wisest people on internet can be found here. I was in a relationship with a girl for last 8 months. She was from a conservative family and her mixing with boys was not liked. I was in relationship with her for last 8 months. Recently, I got to know she has been in a relationship with some other boy also for last 5 years. So she was cheating me and also the other guy. Her past is shady and has two or three relationships like this in the past. When I got to know about the other boy I was so furious and wanted to take revenge in some way. But a wise lady suggested me to control my anger and wait for a few days. I did the same but somehow I could not stop thinking about revenge and finally told everything to her mother. She was beaten and scolded, though I insisted to her mother that please don't punish her and let her free. Tbh, I wanted an end to this story so I thought that may be her mother will marry her with that boy and I will make my mind understand that she is no more mine. But things happened the other way. Her mother called me in the evening and said to me if I will marry her daughter. I didn't say yes but I know she is never going to marry her daughter with that person and I am always a option for them because I am highly educated than her and also earning a lot more. Now my question is I am totally blinded by the beauty of that girl. She has become like a priceless possession for me and I want her at all cost. Until I have that choice to marry her I can't stop thinking about her. May be I sound foolish but that's the true story. I sometimes think what if she stays with me for a short time (if cheats me) ,in any case relationships are not absolute in nature. Couples cheat each other so many times in life. Would I be wrong if I decide to marry her? because in any case she is not going to get married with her choice of boy. Moreover, I know her and love her too so please enlighten me on this situation. Thanks in advance.
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But it's important to have legal conditions(like in marriage). What you are talking about is possible for people with a very refined character and such utopian societies dont exist anywhere. jealousy is often considered a part of a relationship. I mean to say its one of the outcomes of going in any relationship and its not possible to avoid it unless a person is a highly realized being. Social norms and legal conditons do have there place. Love under will is very right but I guess some restrictions are also a part. I don't want to say let the love turn toxic but these restrictions force a person to give a second try to a weakening relation.
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What kind of societal, family and cultural monstrosities are we talking about. Aren't these institutions for the benefit of humans? I think it happens because if a man did sex with a virgin or a married woman he did not need to face any consequences, whereas in the past a female had to bear all the consequences. She had to face hardships of pregnancy, moreover it also lead to mixing of races or castes that's why I think women were more severely punished. Men were considered perpetrators, and it was women who needed to protect their chastity. I think it's kind of victim blaming where women were fooled (seduced) and also they were the ones who got the punishment. I mean to say it's wrong to mistreat the weak; both gender should get equal punishment (or a chance to penance). In the modern times such cases dont exist hence double standards should not be there. Its a step in the right direction. Lies and betrayal should not be there in a relationship. Exclusivity is not necessary (should not be demanded also unless married) but at least someone should not make fake promises regarding it.
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The nature of game may vary. I think you are perfectly right. That's why every relationship is unique. Taomeow, some of the games may be pretty dirty then. Would it be correct to say then that 'everything is fair in love and war' ? In developing nations crime related to women is so much more and it's because the males ( majority) justify their criminal acts saying such proverbs. I do believe it's very much wrong. But there should be some way out. Is sexual expression of freedom that way? Then adultery would be justified. I think it's too messed up.
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Great, won't you say anything about the girl ? It's not like that I can't digest what you all said about my sexual immaturity, possessive mentality, unbalanced passions and so on. I just could never understand the so open attitude of westerners towards sex and cheating. May be you can shed some light? It's generally considered here that "Relationship is not something which you make just for fun. It's sacred and loyalty should be practised at all cost. ( Wanna have fun do something else hiking, rafting, painting friggin everything but cheating is wrong)." May be I have all your mentioned issues that is why I mentioned many times "I may sound foolish". I am not closed to criticism but I don't want anyone passes a judgement on me. I asked that girl many times that you can tell me if you have someone else in life. She swore many times but never gave me a hint of it. I had talked about that girl with my mother and sister already. It's a big thing in here as love marriages are generally frowned upon by people. She could have stopped me right there because I did all that asking her permission. I took a risk for her and what she gave in return was betrayal. I don't have any problem with her past and I don't care if she has done sex with anyone. I just think what she did was wrong and I have now so much trust issues with everyone. I just don't believe any girl anymore. What I did by telling her parents was just to teach her a lesson. She could have faced a very big problem if she could have gone to someone else with more sick mentality than me. Death is not always physical sometimes people kill you mentally and emotionally. It's what I experienced. You are always welcome and really some of your points are remarkably perfect.
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I will try to contact her and see what happens. But as most people say I'm thinking about dropping the idea. Hoping to find someone more beautiful than her. It is not necessary that if she is beautiful then sex will be more enjoyable with her. Am I right ?
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I guess, Wisdom has no territories. That is why I am asking question here. I want to know the answer generally without any cultural influence.
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Very insightful answer. But I guess this is not always the case. Some people are cheaters by choice. She did swore many times to me that she has no other boy in her life. I asked her many times if she wants a casual relationship. But she never gathered the courage to tell me and obviously I leaned more towards her. But this point can also be defended by saying that may be she was childish and people often make childish decisions while exploring unknown territories. Then I guess in such way adultery can also be made to look like a childish mistake, whereas it can have devastating effects on other person's life. It should be same for everyone be it a boy or a girl. Cheating should never be encouraged. If a person wants to experiment with multiple partners it should be made clear in the beginning. He/she should never be in a serious relationship and whatever it costs they must be ready to pay that cost. If they are doing so while being in a serious relationship it may cost their relationship also. I don't think anything is wrong here. What do you think, Taomeow? It would be great if you can ask I Ching on my behalf. I can provide you more details in Inbox.
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I do understand what you want to say. But I don't look at all women this way. I want to say she is a cheater and they need something from me which I can provide. So what is wrong in my thinking. I would have easily left her if she had got married with someone. But now I see an opportunity in front of me which has put me in this dilemma. I think my situation of power( I am in control of this situation) along with strong desire to get her is something which is confusing me. If I were helpless, I would have never thought about so many situations.