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Hello NordaVinci,

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Hello eric-stroman,

Your account is approved; welcome to the bums. Sorry to read of your troubles. Personally, I would suggest not focusing so much on how you believe people around you are feeling, and more on your own inner energetics and how you are feeling - maybe some basic practices with the elements for personal balance.

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ilu

5 hours ago, VELLY said:

I don't trust her at all but the desire to get her once has just become too strong. I may seem childish but I think that what if she leaves me, at least I would be with her for short time ( in short - a sexual relationship with her is I desire the most ). Actually I am an IELTS tutor and have myself applied for permanent residency in Canada which I may get this year. She is weak in English and they want to marry me with her because it can be the easiest method for her to migrate to Canada. I don't believe in permanency of relationships and think that it's like a deal I'm providing her an opportunity in favor of getting sexual pleasures. 

 

Obviously, I can't discuss such issues with my parents or anyone else so that is why I considered it as a platform to get advice from some mature and wise people.

I actually find this a bit troubling. 
 

There is so much more than a simple “get her out of India” (which I believe is at least pretty close to how you put it in a later post) - which seems to be her mother’s goal, although I have seen no indication it is hers.

You would be taking her away from her friends and family (i.e. any support network she presently has - if they are actually supportive), and bringing her to a place where she has no strong language skills (according to you), will likely experience some amount of culture shock, and have difficulty communicating in any nuanced fashion with anyone other than you. If you indeed wish to convince yourself you will be “providing opportunity” then these things should be considered imo - or else it looks a bit like a “dependency trap” to me.. which is certainly and entirely honestly a perception colored by my own history.

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Hi Renvanor,

This isn’t much of an intro, and doesn’t quite qualify as fulfilling the “tell us a bit about yourself” request. But I am approving your account anyway. Perhaps you could consider telling us something about yourself at some point. 
 

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Hello Kevin37,

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On 4/19/2021 at 12:24 PM, liberale.ironikerin said:

>>> Is there sort of a corner in the forum, I haven't found yet, where women talk about changes?

Yes, there is an area here for this type of gender focused discussion, but we don’t say much there. I don’t know if the general silence there is due to the fact we have had men here create accounts as women (without actually identifying as such in everyday life), the women who have stuck around here tend to be older, or we simply have little to say on the subject.

This thread is where you would request access:

On 4/20/2021 at 1:18 AM, Indiken said:

 

i am impatient, i want to get instantly the things i desire.

 

when will i know that i am mature enough?

 

 

You will know when the impatience wanes, and you no longer feel driven to instant gratification of (any and all) arising desires. 
 

Life doesn’t always work like that anyway (you aren’t always going to get what you want), so observance and time should (will likely) provide it’s own lessons/antidote.

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Hello liberala.ironikerin,

Your account is approved; welcome to the bums. I don’t believe anyone will have the answers you seek, as the answers would be very personal to you and your own journey. But perhaps other members may be able to provide points which will assist you in navigating your inner journey.

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ilu

Hi 10/12/1980,

Your account is approved; welcome to the bums.

Interesting intro. I am curious how you acquired the savior/salvation/apocalypse stuff without (what I previously believed was a prerequisite) Christian/religious/spiritual upbringing. Have you pondered this it all?  Do you have any ideas/thoughts on the matter?
 

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ilu
 

Hello Synjin,

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Hi dindin,

Your account is approved.

If you have already experienced issues with sexually related practices (or your understanding of them), I would not recommend pursuing further related practices.

May you find the help you are seeking,

ilu

Hello bbed68,

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Hi Romeo,

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Hello An Athlete,

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Hi Rufus,

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Hi jmag, 

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Hello Oxolus,

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Hi Sharing Knowledge,

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Sorry to read of the loss of your partner,

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Hello LookingForAnswer366,

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56 minutes ago, Knowthing said:

What a shocking story.

Really electrifying.

6 hours ago, alleniverson said:

Hello guys and gals.

 

I want to shut down my account.

 

I do not wish to be part of this community anymore.

 

How do I do that?

 

Thanks

Generally people who no longer wish to be here simply stop coming here.

Hi freakyqi,

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Hi nerd at stuff, interesting (and unexpected) questions which I’ll leave others to answer (if they wish) for now.

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