ilumairen

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  1. Tantra...

    Thank you for sharing the practices and understanding of your lineage. This brought to mind outer ruschen.
  2. Tantra...

    The experience of the "negative emotion" is the doorway - an opportunity. And this, imo, is what is being referred to when the phrase "working with negative emotions" is used. And in this, again imo, it is an appropriate and clear phrase. This seems kinda circular to me. Are you perhaps speaking towards experiencing the emotion, letting the words fall away, and then experiencing only the energetic essence?
  3. I feel stuck, purposeless and confused

    Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You https://www.amazon.com/dp/0060928972/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_NVycDbKJCSVE6 Best wishes.
  4. The Harsh Reality of Awakening

    It depends on the interaction. Yesterday I spent about an hour messaging with my dad who literally lives a thousand miles away. And because of this, and the time my step brother spends online maintaining his connection to my step mom in spite of a distance of more than a thousand miles, I'm unwilling/unable to write off all online communication as "vapid". I simply do not know what any person I see holding a phone is doing with said phone, and, for me personally, it would be presumptuous to assume I do.
  5. On a quest to make sense of things

    Rideforever, this is "golden" imo.
  6. The Harsh Reality of Awakening

    Thank you for this explanation; it helps me to understand where you are coming from, and what you're referring to when you use the word awakening.
  7. The Harsh Reality of Awakening

    So they're attempting to connect. And you're setting yourself apart. (Nothing wrong with either imo - just an observation regarding what you've chosen to share.) What are your thoughts on appearance and emptiness?
  8. The Harsh Reality of Awakening

    From where I'm sitting it looks like a shift in paradigms.. What does awakening mean to you, and how is it meant to be understood as presented in the title of this thread? BTW I didn't realize you'd have to fake sincerity to hold a door open for someone or share a smile with a stranger.
  9. Why do YOU think the world is so messed up?

    Seems like a difference between personally addressing what comes, and taking what comes personally.
  10. The Harsh Reality of Awakening

    This is neat. :smiles at rideforever:
  11. The Harsh Reality of Awakening

    Sounds lovely. This disconnect sounds similar to what you're ascribing to others.
  12. The Harsh Reality of Awakening

    Oh, I forgot the young mother who was grateful when I suggested she step in front of me at the gas station queue. The lovely young couple who smiled when I held the door open for them upon entering, and the older lady who expressed appreciation of my manners when I held the door for her when leaving. When I use the quote, "be the change you wish to see in the world," it isn't idle chatter. Maybe give it a try, and see what happens?
  13. The Harsh Reality of Awakening

    Today we struck up a conversation with a friendly lady at the gas pump who was taking a crash course in driving a vehicle with a manual transmission, and apparently loving it. Smiled with a few strangers while perusing the baked goods, and then got in queue behind an older couple. The gentleman was enjoying his own little quips about not being able to "take it with" him - meaning the money he was spending. And the wife was gently resting her palm on his arm and smiling at the quips I can only imagine she's heard many times before. I didn't see anyone on their phones while waiting in queue. ***** Why would people believe you'd gone mad if you smiled at them?
  14. The Harsh Reality of Awakening

    Thanks for checking in, and responding to my post. Good luck with the angst; I'm going to go shopping and smile at the people in queue - who generally smile back and sometimes share stories.
  15. The Self, Does it Exist?

    Although a whirlpool appears it is empty, although it is empty it appears. A manifestation of perceived qualities dependent upon a plethora of circumstance. Which earned me "a big no shit" when I shared what I was giggling about before posting it.
  16. Why do YOU think the world is so messed up?

    I actually tend to agree with this.. And this just made me laugh. Hope you're having a good day rideforever.
  17. The Self, Does it Exist?

    It's an event - motion reified and contemplated as a noun.
  18. The Harsh Reality of Awakening

    There is an irony in threads such as this, where the staring at screens is disavowed by someone staring at a screen. If you wish to engage with people, then connect to the warmth in your own heart, and "be the change you wish to see in the world".. you may be surprised by just how friendly those people waiting in queue can be. And if they're not, you can always type out your own condemnation of their errant ways.
  19. Why do YOU think the world is so messed up?

    I am genuinely interested in your thoughts on this, and am finding them quite useful in my own exploration. Warm regards
  20. Why do YOU think the world is so messed up?

    This brought a laugh. However, based on what comes next, I would suggest the interpretation of the readings is more indicative of your internal temp(erment) than the warmth and genuinness of the people sharing here. Any of the individuals this could refer to actually do walk their talk. This condemnation is your interpretation of snippets they've shared, and is lacking in any genuine attempt to understand where they are coming from, or what any of their past experience may have been. There are also two understandings of "suffering" being conflated, and this may cause some misunderstanding and contentiousness.
  21. Wu Wei - Doing nothing?

    If you're alive, you are playing the game.
  22. Wu Wei - Doing nothing?

    The idea of ego is interesting, and seems tied to memory - which I believe in standard understanding is dependent upon language. The labeling of experience is a necessity in the verbal sharing of experience, and the means and manner and understandings of what is shared is often filtered through the personal perception of what is called ego. When one considers language as not just a tool in differentiation for the sake of understanding and communication, but a differentiated attribute of the ego itself, it becomes a question of, "can there be a dissolution of ego where language is present?"
  23. The Self, Does it Exist?

    This activity, the moving, living and growing are what makes "self" impermanent. It isn't fixed and unchanging. What is your understanding of "no self"? Because you present the arguments for the proper understanding of "no self" in your arguments against "no self", and I'm finding it quite curious. Is "it" changing, or is your awareness of "it" what is growing?
  24. (((CT))) Joyful hugs and smiles upon your return.
  25. Wu Wei - Doing nothing?

    And some seeds dry in the Sun, rot in pools of water, lay dormant, and many are eaten. This too is natural. :wicked little giggle: Flowers only unfold by great fortune of circumstance, or careful cultivation - which could be considered great fortune. And it certainly does take years for trees to become what we call trees. From seed, to sapling, to tree. And when we're thirsty, we still raise a cup to our lips. :holds up cup: Cheers, my friend