Flolfolil

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    I don't have any answers to your questions, but wanted to salute you for asking them just the same. This kind of thing doesn't get talked about much here, and I think it takes courage to bring it up.

     

    Liminal

    thanks :) yeah just another one of flo's weird ass threads -> now with 100% less conscious, talking, inanimate objects!

     

    as a general rule, i only make threads about things that are very close to my heart and need real guidance for and stay away from posting threads about things i don't -really- care about. this tends to get me pretty upset when they get derailed. :lol:

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    So, i tried the pain/submission thing the other night. Rather enjoyable. Jumped right into it without doing any kind of research or talking with anyone experienced and i kinda regret that. So, i have some observations and questions:

     

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Subspace_%28BDSM%29

    ^what is the relationship between this and meditation?

    i felt as if being consensually harmed was -very- ego destroying and like emptiness-style meditation i sometimes do. Very enjoyable, but it came as a huge surprised and kindof shocked me :/

     

    i also noted that my partner/dom experienced a drastic drop in their emotional state and they have been depressed and anxious all day...unable to get off, etc.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aftercare_%28BDSM%29

    There's a page that talks about this a tiny bit. Just wondering if anyone has any advice for me on how to deal with it? Possibly any energetic techniques to prevent this sort of endorphin crash? Normally my partner/dom is -very- sensitive and shy and has problems expressing assertiveness and masculinity...so while this was very attractive to me to have him switch his game up, i believe it may have traumatized him a bit. i am normally the bossy one in our relationship, he has trouble saying no to any requests, so it was as if we both switched roles entirely.