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  1. We speak of inner work on this forum. I guess I am questioning my own understanding. I am curious to know how others here actually do their inner work. Do you question your own motives on a daily basis? Do you make a point of looking for your own inner contortions and doing what you can to straighten them out? Do you meditate and search for the odd thought that comes to mind and question your motivation about the thought and what that tells you about you? Or do you not think about it, just trusting that Life will bring you what you need for your own evolution?

     

    My understanding is one thing. There are so many here whose opinions I respect, and whose own personal evolutions are so visible - I am wondering about other methods of achieving clarity. My own method would more closely align with a life recapitulation, wherein the past is looked at, motives are examined, changes are made. A very long process. But maybe this isn't necessary. Maybe there is a shorter way, an inner rolfing of character defects and contortions.

     

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    Manitou ,

     

    where does the character come from and when , at what point ? Good or bad , annoying , jelouos , joyful , content or sad ?

     

    Who is this character ? Who do this characteristics belong to ?

    Where do they come from ?

    In relation to what ?

     

     

     

    This is kind of inner work that makes me sparkle these days ..not stopping by at Guilt and Self Pity and going for straight for the diamond .


  2. On another thread, a Master said:

     

     

    "Do the inner work, only speak from personal experience, ignore urges to quote teachers and books...."

     

     

    What does this mean?

    It seems as if it is a formula that has helped someone achieve something at some point in time . However life is has its own unpredictable ways and timings ...and some opposites may work out perfectly depending on situation and person .


  3. Yes I can understand :) , I was thinking the other day that psychic stuff (in many ways ) is not really fun as it takes a lot of adjusting and skill , some stuff I just rather not know . It would be easier .

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  4. Karma is cause and effect ,the reason why is something the way it is . Maybe even more correct , sort of attachment to cause and effect .

    For example to make tea happen -- one needs to take tea bag and a cup , and boil the kettle . Last night shopping contributed tea come to life , together with a shopping bag , clock to see if shop is still open , clothes that keep warm , house keyes , waterproof shoes and money erned . So many causes and causes of the causes just for single cup of tea . Like this everything comes to life , not necessary only bad or good ,heaven and hell .

    Some paths calculate a lot and do rituals according to star positions etc .....it can get pretty strenous and complicated .

     

    Personally I do not think in terms of karma but in terms of tracing back the cause within and with that uprooting the mental and emotional weeds and unecessary seeds .

     

    Yes I def agree with you on practising being a decent person . This is a platform for more universal understanding , without it it is just not going to happen .

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  5. Nice sharing everybody , have some reading to do ...

     

     

     

     

    Dance, Lalla, With Nothing On

    Dance, Lalla, with nothing on
    but air: Sing, Lalla,
    wearing the sky.

    Look at this glowing day! What clothes
    could be so beautiful, or
    more scared?


    - Lalleshwari
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  6. *Must focus more on wrist locks, so as to keep myself out of prisons in india for maiming inappropriate groping guys* ;)

    Some Indian women told that in this case one should take of their shoe/flip flop (!) and smack offender on the face with it . This is meant to be hight of degradation and way to bring others positive attention appropriatley in this kind of situation so people will understand what is going on .

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  7. There will always be horror stories and naysayers telling you how dangerous places are. If you listen to all of them, you might as well never leave you house.

     

    I just met a Finnish woman who said she would never go to India because of the recent gang rape stories whereas I found India to be the most peaceful, friendly and nonviolent place I had ever been. Who is right - no idea - that's up to you to decide.

    In my expirience India is extremly sexist and can be disrespectful towards women who do not fit into a good "wife category" . Incredible really , some man just help themselves and feel very free to grab parts of a woman on street or public transport . It is not unusual , it does not mean that it happens to everyone , but it is so much more common occurance than in Europe for exampl

     

     

    Do love India a lot , as it is very special place and have met some lovley people there , but this discrimination aspects really puts me off .

     

     

    In comparison to Thailand for example which is a breeze where man are predominatly just super cool . I could dress in normal clothes and was left alone without comments and constant stares , very friendly people who know what importance personal space means .


  8. That is one thing which is a bit annoying about some other countries I travel to, they never heard of PLATONIC, hello? lol

    This is very interesting , cultural differences -- the way life is expressed geographicly can be different in some ways .

    In many cultures there is no male/female friendship at all , in some places friendship is not AT ALL same what we would consider friendship and intimacy between friends here in Europe .

    But yeah it is ANNOYING not to be able to move around freely in some places around the world becouse of being female .

    Even if wearing a "wedding ring" I have noticed... I could perhaps learn the word "lesbian" in several different languages ;).

    Beware becouse being a lesbian is a strange concept for a lot of cultures .

    It is just plain wierd , if not highly unnacaptable .

     

    Anyway two women -- a lesbian couple spend a month in Haiti(out of all places) and loved it a lot , but got approached a lot and found it extremly annoying, even though one of them is so butch ( and has little moustache even ). She told me she never got approached by man before for ever and does not understand what happened . lol

    Tragi comedy .

     

     

    In Egypt at least they compliment you first ROFL .

     

    Lovley , what a gentleman ! hahah

     

    Thank you for saying this, I'm glad that it is generally safe. Generally when I travel I avoid the tourist places like the plague.

     

     

    How well do you know the language? Unfortunately I don't at all. Not that this has stopped me in any other country, but China could be different. I'm wondering if I would need to hire a guide/translator or not?

    I dont know if you need translator for China , I never heard of anyone having one , translator would never cross my mind as a must for travel to place where I dont understand the language , but it may be a good idea depending what is your purpose ..

     

    That whole heart open up thing, yes definitely, I have found overall that folks in the various third word countries can be amazingly open and loving, giving, and so forth. It is a nice contrast sometimes. I always find it interesting that some can be living in poverty, terrible conditions and so forth, but usually still be smiling and genuinely happy :).

    I find that there is a physical poverty and poverty of spirit , and they do not necessary go hand in hand .

     

    Hmmm, I'm not so sure about going alone or not, it is difficult to tell. I mean either gender in this. Whenever I travel I tend to dress down (actually I do all the time anyways lol, but I put a conscious effort into it when traveling), and I feel this helps. Still though the shoes I wear are a year's worth of income for some folks. I feel I could probably go alone if I made at least a few contacts before I left. The couchsurfing thing would most definitely be viable. Also if there are any hostels. Also the hotels tend to look after folks, especially if a woman is running it. I only felt slightly unsafe twice in Haiti, once when my friend and I went to the market alone (we were given hell after by our Haitian friends for doing that), and when I was carrying a rather large sum of money through town (though in that case it was likely more my fears).

     

     

    I found Haiti to be less safe than Egypt (Egypt's economy is run on tourists so we are taken care of, and we are always right in a police dispute), in Haiti, not so much lol. Still though the people treated us well, and didn't try to scam me like in Egypt.

     

    The couchsurfing was so much fun, it was in an apartment full of women, and they were trying to teach me Haitian dancing and even invited me out dancing with them :). One of them even came with us so I could see the local cemetery.

     

    Also a woman I know of lived in Haiti for about 8 years, and I mean in the backcountry of Haiti!!!! That is pretty impressive. She is from the USA.

    That sounds like fun .

    Yes I have met/heard of women living in so called dangerous places by themselves , so inspiring .

     

    No I did not, thank you ;). That reminds me how much I would just LOVE to cycle around Albania for a year. Albania is gorgeous, and most of the roads would work for this. The only thing is... bicycles in these various countries tend to suck, and my good bicycle would likely get stolen within a few minutes, or at least parts of it. Not that they don't where I live now, but still lol.

     

    I am sure you can find a good bike in Albania in capital ... In that blog there are women who have been on the road for 1 or 2 years and none wrote about their bike getting stolen ..

    I cycle at least 6 days a week for at least around an hour on a a low quality bike and am fine (too many bikes got stolen ). Long distances do not require and amazing bike either , just good enough .


  9. Hey Bagua , dont know whats up with my reply options today , cant quote for now .. but to quickly reply yes the women living in China were white .

    One of them knew the language , another not . I spend quite few years in SE Asia and did not know the language . Well learned a bit of Hindi eventually ..

    One black girl I know went to China recently and enjoyed it , but she did some art project colaboration with some people there .

    Answer you later the rest .:)


  10. ~by Ryokan from Dewdrops on a Lotus Leaf


    ...But if you don’t write of things deep inside your own heart,

    What’s the use of churning out so many words?
    ... Unless you got lost on purpose You would never get this far.
    Time passes,

    There is no way We can hold it back

    --Why, then, do thoughts linger on,

    Long after everything else is gone?
    I’m so aware

    That it’s all unreal:One by one,

    the things

    Of this world pass on.

    But why do I still grieve?
    When I think

    About the misery of those in this world

    Their sadness becomes mine.
    ...Suddenly I thought of an old friend

    Separated from me by miles of mountain and rivers.

    Will we ever meet again?

    I gaze toward the sky,

    Tears streaming down my cheeks.
    We meet only to part,C

    Coming and going like white clouds,

    Leaving traces so faint

    Hardly a soul notices.
    From heaven

    A gift more precious

    Then jewels or gold;

    A visit from you

    On the first day of spring!
    Chanting old poems Making our own verses,

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    “Technically, every work of art comes into being in the same way as the cosmos – by means of catastrophes, which ultimately create out of the cacophony of the various instruments that symphony we call the music of the spheres. The creation of the work of art is the creation of the world.”

    Wassily Kandinsky.

     

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  12. in your opinion - how can you know what he meant. What who was he waking up?

    Also he did not explain himself.

    I noticed the poem has been removed

    Yes I wanted 9th to explain the poem too ,as due to dry written internet communication it could have been interpreted as few different meanings . As well as English not being my first language sometimes I wander if I understand things correctly if they are written in special way ..


  13. Bagua , I know 2 women who lived one year and few years in China and enjoyed it .Collegue of mine goes there all the time . She does kung fu and has already made friends over there and stuff , she traveled everywhere in China alone , on the trains , buses , small places ...

     

     

    Met few people living in Hong Kong and loving it for vibrant atmosphere and culture and art ...

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  14. Rara , my opinion is that it depends on where you are at .

    If you are truly capable to "shower love" in your dreams than do it as that is going to raise your vibrations and do not allow space and reason for negativity of any sort .

    If not , experiment and see what works .

    It is about finding our own unique courage , love , wisdom -- our own way of relating to life . Learning to walk all over again .

     

    On spiritual path we are learning how innerscape and outerscape , dream and awake connect and interviene . What you are going through is a MUST for all of us , and we all must learn it -- our way . Learn to navigate through these pathless pathways without any signposts and see through thick fog .

     

    It is really strange how life turns out to be .

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  15. Asia is not a problem traveling alone and on public transport too . Well depending on a comfort zones borderlines and in some (not all )places one has to dress conservatevly or more as locals do and also not really talk to man , unlesss theyre with wives .

    Becouse what can happen is that due to cultural differences you may get misunderstood as a free woman looking for a man .

    Even just going to the toilet at 10 pm once and meeting a man in a hall he asked literally : Madam you want to have sex with me ?

    When I shouted at him and told him that he is insane husseling a woman who is just obliging natures call , he appologised .

    So you know one has to really suss things out without getting overwhelmed .

    Otherwise I have been to places that not even locals would do alone and was fine .

    Than there are places I just would not go alone as a woman full stop , subtle differences .

     

    Asia is actualy really easy for woman travelling alone , you can go easy out of big cities . People are still manly family orientated and if you end up in small village everyone will know you are there and will want to meet you and hear your story . You can make friends fast , so there will always be someone checking up on you , I felt so protected and met incredible people .

    So welcoming and hospitable . They will share even few bread crumbs they got with you . My heart open up a lot in situations like this and have learned how beutiful humans are .

    Saying that being smart is a must and yes some bad expiriences will be there too .

    Do it Bagua :D! You will have wonderful time , send me a private message if you want some details ..

     

     

    Couchsurfing in Haiti ? Wow !

    What do you think of going there alone now that you have been ? Doable or way too much hustle ?

     

    Do you know this website , Women on Wheels -- for female cyclist . It is amazing , so inspirational ,some incredible stories shared there too . Read on ..

    http://www.skalatitude.com/p/wow-women-on-wheels.html

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  16. Yes I used to work 6 and travel 6 months for a while ..also staying at cheap hostels , do travel by trains in Asia and buses .

    As a women alone on budget it is difficult to go many places -- that is true . Unfortunatley :(.

    I am not into having it as a lifestyle any longer , but do like to take a decent quality time off .

    Would love to go Africa , never been .

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