nobody important would measure YOU by the angle of your erection.
What are you really worried about?
Learn massage techniques, take contact improvisation lessons,
dance wave(5 rhythms).
Get in real touch with yourself and others.
Look at yourself as the giant sensitive being that you are.
Feel wind, water, earth and heat on your naked skin.
Breathe, meditate, dance.
Spend a whole day blindfolded, start to smell and listen.
Taste what you are eating and drinking, play with the tongue in your mouth.
This world is magic! There are so many ways to get off!
Get sensual on the whole physical level!
Start to enjoy what already is, things will find their way!