Astral_Anima Posted February 18, 2011 (edited) http://www.ask.com/wiki/Codependency Denial patterns: * I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling. * I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel. * I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others. Low self-esteem patterns: * I have difficulty making decisions. * I judge everything I think, say or do harshly, as never "good enough." * I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts. * I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires. * I value others' approval of my thinking, feelings and behavior over my own. * I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person. Compliance patterns: * I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others' anger. * I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same. * I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long. * I value others' opinions and feelings more than my own and am afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own. * I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want. * I accept sex when I want love. Control patterns: * I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves. * I attempt to convince others of what they "should" think and how they "truly" feel. * I become resentful when others will not let me help them. * I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked. * I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about. * I use sex to gain approval and acceptance. * I have to be "needed" in order to have a relationship with others. Haha, everything accept "Compliance" is SO me, lol. Now I have a label. YAY! . I just found it interesting that they have a title for this kinda stuff. Idk, just thought I'd share. Anyone else relate to any of these? I was under the belief that some of these are useful, what are you guys' thoughts? -Astral EDIT: Just noticed, "Compliance" sounds like alot of women I know . Poor lasses EDIT 2: The sub was supposed to say "and NOT of the third kind". Edited February 18, 2011 by Astral_Anima Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Birch Posted February 18, 2011 Denial patterns: * I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling. -nope * I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel. -nope * I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others. -nope Low self-esteem patterns: * I have difficulty making decisions.-nope * I judge everything I think, say or do harshly, as never "good enough." -meh, more or less a nope * I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts. - hell no * I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.- hum hum * I value others' approval of my thinking, feelings and behavior over my own. - woah, calm down! * I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person. - purlease, seriously Compliance patterns: * I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others' anger. - mezzo mezzo * I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same. - yes to second part which is how I find out the first part * I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long. - yes to first part - no way to second part * I value others' opinions and feelings more than my own and am afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own. - huh? * I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want.- WTF? * I accept sex when I want love. -meh, huh, maybe, sometimes Control patterns: * I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves. - Oh come on * I attempt to convince others of what they "should" think and how they "truly" feel. -Not unless I'm joking * I become resentful when others will not let me help them.- Really? * I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked. -Oh dear * I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about.- Why not? * I use sex to gain approval and acceptance. -Hmmm * I have to be "needed" in order to have a relationship with others. -Hopefully not is one required to answer "yes or no" to this stuff to get a diagnostic? What is this, the DSMV or Cosmo? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NeiChuan Posted February 18, 2011 Jeez I really only see what I want haha. First I saw the thread title as "Opening your third eye", and when you labeled it of the 3rd kind, I thought you meant aliens. Being I messed up 3rd kind with 4th kind. lol Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
