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  1. Sorry Guys - I apologise in advance for this topic! And I'm not trying to be funny or anything, but if semen is Yang energy and a woman swallows my issue, will she absorb my energy? Also if I'm going down on her, would the same be true, would that be Yin energy or Yang energy in this case? So a 69 would be a fair trade off then? I have not been able to find any discussion on this topic, having done a few searches on my tags and read a few topics.. Thanks in advance! Best regards, SY
  2. My most sincere apologies, I'm sure this topic exists somewhere, I just couldn't appease the Search gods enough for them to help me! Whether it is culturally acknowledged or not, most societies regard the heterosexual act, at the very least, as a form of natural magick necessary to expand the species. This, as I understand it, is the basis for White Magick. On the other hand, homosexuality in some cultures is described as Black Magick. Penetration & fluid transmission, mimicking the heterosexual sex act of copulation but without a foetus, no egg to fertilise. In Christianity, for example, it is considered blasphemous. Some believe that the act of buggery installs demons in the aura. What I do know though, is to be careful where you spill your seed. Stony ground, fertile ground... the allegory is clear. I'm heterosexual but celibate & have been since my twenties. I've always felt that sex is something really special, to be enjoyed with a loving partner. The true love shared by the couple can be "celebrated" by the sex act, and the spiritual rewards should be bountiful. If one takes it further in the occult sense, it is possible to time the act to be "cosmically charged" according to astrological cycles (I'm guessing really, I've not much knowledge of astrology). Personally I'd rather go without until I find said partner (30 years later I still haven't), rather than risk what I feel is a hugely significant, highly charged event with consequences we (used to) know little of. I don't miss it - I've other stimulation's to keep me occupied - music study is my lifelong partner. Alas also, we are living in a time when the West has been infiltrated by the scourge of feminism, we also have MGTOW & the battling sexes... I like to think I did my bit for population control by not adding to the numbers To think we left school & were encouraged to sow our seed, without any knowledge of just what it is we were engaged in. I understand the need for a rite of passage into adulthood but the times they are-a-changin'... I know people that screwed around - they exhibit some of the characteristics of their sexual partners & seem almost schizophrenic in a way. I wonder if this leads to a loss of self, and therefore self-realisation? There are an awful lot of "clones" in Western society... makes it easy for social engineers & think tanks to manage. What a travesty. Contemporary life however, suggests to the suggestible listener that "it's OK to screw around". Personally I think not, and that's saying nothing of STD's & crazy ex's. But I'll not judge anyone that has, in fact I'd like to know if anyone has had any really positive or negative spiritual experiences with the sexual act, heterosexual or otherwise?
  3. Hello and my first qestion

    hi im new in eastern teaching. began with mantak chia doing his exercise to criculate enery directly to my head and transmuitation i already feel more intellligent like a genius like napoleon hill said im his book about think and grow rich with sexual tramsntation so i wathc naruto and there is a character called rock lee and he can open his 8 gates to achieve the lotus and gain speed resisance and more for a period of time im wondering if there arer some practixes or exercices to make myself able to make do it by myself to incfrease my strehngt and speed and semen treretion sory for my bad grammmar my kekbard is a lite bad nowadays and im witjout money amd a little conf used recently emaybe too much energy am also recovering form pornm adcicdtion thansx
  4. I have heard that if people have sex with each other they get connected on a spiritual level (astral tube concept?). I don't know about this but i wanted to ask you if is this the case with porn ? If we put out focus on a video of a woman living 1000 miles away from us and masturbate to it, Can we get connected to her spiritually?
  5. I dabble in programming and game design as a hobby. So now I'm making a game that uses explicit sex (not sugar coating it) as a way to convey a certain idea. From my point of view, I feel like we live our daily lives separated. In simple terms, there is the observer and what is observed. In this elemental duality of the world that we perceive we try to more than understand what we see, to be that what we perceive, this being the ultimate form of understanding of reality. And for that to occur one has to somehow merge with reality (whatever that really means). To merge with everything, like in an orgy. Hence sexuality.And why coming up with sex in this context? And not say tao, nirvana, ego death, samadhi or simply love? Because by saying everything is love, is to most probably fail the intended message. People relate to love as only a positive thing. Therefore a way to bias the message, missing the duality altogether. On the other hand, sex comes from our most primitive form, hardwired biology we should not ignore, coming from the very fountain of the infinitesimal. Because saying "I f*ck you", has at the same time a derogatory meaning as well as a nice meaning. Hence the unifying of the perceived duality.By making a game where I present characters that are the forces of Nature anthropomorphized, I try to show this concept. Battling but making love, make love but battle. And from that struggle, the world we perceive comes to be.
  6. Desire

    In one aspect this idea of being celibate and doing meditation daily seems enticing, but living in modern society, I doubt anyone is going to be successful in achieving enlightenment. It seems like becoming a monk is the noble path for fulfilling enlightenment. It also seems that many religions tie celibacy very closely to enlightenment. But does becoming a monk and pursuing Buddhism full time lead to enlightenment in actuality? Or does it just increase your chances? I know it would make celibacy easier, but is there really a purpose to all that? They say desire is the root of suffering. Is there more suffering in this life that is outweighs the positives? This leads to deeper questions like what is the purpose of life? Is it just to procreate? Can one find peaceful/enlightened states while procreating? Is this 10 day silent retreat (Vipassana) just a way of forgetting these animalistic urges short-term? Or does is lead to a powerful new technique for developing mental stillness while overcoming the rigors of everyday society? I recently picked up the Bhagavad Gita due to suggestions by Indian spiritual readings and I found it saying that we are nothing and everything at the same time. It doesn't seem like procreating or even having intercourse embodies this philosophy. The texts goes so far as to say we shouldn't take part in worldly pleasures. Yet, I have also read that the Hindu gods rejoice in sexual intercourse and even embrace it for marriage and with multiple partners. This leads to a word that has been on my mind many a day lately and that's the subject of lust. Lust to me is what I find in a partner. And isn't love the way we are suppose to feel for all other humans? I have a partner, but my animalistic instincts direct me away from having just one partner. And that brings me to my point of if having a partner is even good in the first place. I feel in every day society and partner life/attachment, at least moving out to a semi secluded area down the road would be the most logical. That way I would not have to deal with the ongoing issue of lusting for the opposite sex. Thoughts? Warmly, Chi Boy
  7. I am a nearly 22 year old male and I have chosen at this time of life to be celibate and conserve jing while trying to restore lost chi from childhood. Since I don't have sex, masturbate or watch porn I am afraid my testosterone is low for a male although this may not be rational, I am not sure. But I at least want to train my mind to meditate on sexual desire and transmute it instead of pursuit of temporary pleasure into confidence and personal strength. The longest I have retained is 168 days and I'd like to go indefinitely from this point onward but it means I am going to have to find healthy outlet for fulfillment and accomplishment in life. That's the whole idea though lol. Any thoughts or suggestions?
  8. Okay, I have been reading about ways of opening the microcosmic orbit and one way is the cool draw technique known as testicle breathing. Another I have read is about imagining a small white pearl at the lower dantian and then orbiting the pearl around the back and front channel with intention to feel at the same time as visualization. Do you guys think the deer exercise can help open this orbit? And, can you guys tell me what techniques you use to open the microcosmic orbit?
  9. cool draw - testicle breathing

    Okay, I am having a hard time trying to feel my CHI go up my spine when practicing the cool draw known as testicle breathing I just cant feel it and worried if I have some blockages? I have been study a little sexual kung fu as described by Mantak Chia in his book the Multi-Orgasmic Man. I also have back pain when standing for long periods of time do to a injury some time last year, but I never went to the doctor. I am in my early 20's so do you think this will effect my sessions at home or will my back get stronger do to practicing Mantak Chia practices?
  10. I am celibate and have been practicing cultivation / jing retention for quite some time now, but have come to realize that it is unnatural long-term for a human to exist without experiencing occasional arousal of Kundalini energy. This is not to say to give in fully to lustful desires, but to at least allow the energy to flow through the body. Does anyone have any specific sexual yoga or meditation practice to offer apart from Chi-Gung, which I already do? Thanks.
  11. Such as? Especially as Tsung Hwa Jou's promised fourth book on the southern school is never coming out. I'm not interested in Dual Cultivation, just in not hurting myself through sex. Thank you.
  12. I've tried reading Mantak Chia's books on this topic, but I'm still unsure on what to do. Many non-taoist and taoist guides on the internet do not give a full explanation on how to do it, or are too vague. I hope someone here can give me a concise and easy-to-understand guide on how to convert unused and stagnant sexual energy in the groin/prostate into energy that can be used for mental or physical tasks. Thank you for your time p.s. I have only read a couple of Taoism related books, so i probaby won't understand a lot of Taoist jargon. Please use simple english if you can.
  13. dual cultivation thoughts

    I've posted relevant to this topic before. i'm in college and I'm currently in a relationship with a girl who I share a lot of common ground with both emotionally and spiritually. i had a one night stand and realized afterward that it was meaningless and basically a drain on my jing and chi centers (big surprise there). so i decided to find a long-term partner, because if i didn't i would probably just fall into complete depression. 100% celibacy didn't work out too well. since being with my girl I've really re-thought the concept of making love. Now i'm a taurus and we tend to be very horny, earth-rooted beings, i.e. we have a strong connection to the animalistic aspect of sex. but it's clearly stated that there can be no love in the same vein as desire. So what her role to me is is to "tame the bull" (she's a psychology major, so she understands partially where this is all coming from). i don't ever press her for sex. so far it's made things interesting, from an energy perspective it is somewhat fun being played with and occasionally having sex withheld, because that serves to strengthen the bond. also, it seems we both believe in quality over quantity, for one thing sex can get boring and there is so much else to do together lol. we've only had sex once a week since being together. I try to think of the energy curve as a bell curve. someone suggested to me, in the way of Melanesian peoples, to start slowly by caressing, hugging and kissing. that primes the fire; further on, i get hot and excited, like any guy would, but the difference is that i only let it go to a point. i breathe deep and remain conscious of the animal/human distinction, and also the fact that the intimacy i am being given is a gift, which means that i need to respond with love. so i shove aside the animal urge to reproduce and focus on bringing loving pleasure. as for staying clear of the edge, sometimes deep breathing alone works, other times i've had to numb it, though i'm trying very hard to not need any aids whatsoever because this should be mental. when it's all said and done i haven't dissipated any energy, what (i feel) i have given is love, not just an animalistic act. hugging afterward, talking, or even laughing brightens it up as well. i also do yoga immediately afterward which also dissipates some energy because it is a physical outlet of a different kind. the interesting thing is that i read that jing is a very dense substance, and i can literally attest to this; if i conserve jing during sex my body feels like lead. the interesting thing is that the more full of this intangible energy i sense myself becoming, the less and less i really feel like i NEED sex. it's sort of like, i've reached a benchmark, now i can focus on other things because i have been fulfilled again. i also sense a chi energy in myself the likes of which i had only ever observed in gay men. i think it's because most straight men don't practice sex the way i do haha. thoughts? PS: not kidding: jing conservation has promoted higher immunity in myself as well as muscle hypertrophy.....and i also grew a beard...wicked..
  14. Hello everyone, Well I thought I would post this here since you guys are familiar with the spiritual as well as the bodies energies. OK so I have been taking hormones estrogen and progesterone plus I take sleep aids and amitriptyline. I am a guy so I think that has something to do with it. So I have been feeling great. And am able to make more jokes. The other day I was feeling good, and went to sleep, and had this dream of this young lady that was around me and my friend. I kept making her laugh. And she kept doing things. She eventually got naked and was running around. And I didn't say anything. I just ignored it. Then she came back. And I was joking around saying. Did you see that girl, she was just running right through here naked? Can you believe that? Of course I was just joking about it, and she was laughing. Knowing full well that it was her. Then I was minding my own business and she came over to me and whispered in my ear and said: "lets have sex". I got a hard on then in the morning. Meaning a threesome with my friend. And I told her that she would have to ask my friend. Knowing that he probably would not want to do that. Then i woke up. Now I have never had a threesome. Or sex with any lady. I use porn. But I have always felt that women were out of my reach from my highly Conservative Christian background. I am a funny and smart guy in real life but I have been bogged down by a pretty bad health condition. So I am wondering if any of you as Taoists have insights into this. Note I don't think any of this would have happened if I didn't take the women hormones estrogen and progesterone. Which make a women and women. They estradiol is so powerful it can even make a man grow boobs. So I can only imagine what it does to the brain. BTW estradiol is what I am taking. The way we were playing around in the dream is so like the female energy. All the things were in place for make for the perfect play of the famine. There was no just plain out sex. There was joking. And in the end she came to me and whispered in my ear which is the feminine way of initiating sex. I am not trying to sound all brag as much as I want to learn from this. I have also been feeling this really noticeable feeling of love and compassion. I have also been hearing this very subtle but beautiful music in my mind. God...... I can want for scientists to open up our hearts with real medicine that heals the soul. And no wonder Suzanne Somers says she loves hormones so much. LOL This dream was definitely out of the ordinary for me to have. Any thoughts as Taoists. about the feminine energy manifesting like this in this guys body, with my beliefs? This is very fascinating to me. Perhaps I should post this on the dream forum too.
  15. Hey everyone! I've been training very hard and I want to progress as quickly as possible but I've run into a bit of a road block. I am required to take at least 72 hours off of training every time I ejaculate whether it be while I'm awake or asleep because if I don't it would result in a torn dan tien. This used to not be that much of a problem since I rarely had nocturnal emissions and as I'm not married I don't have sex. However for the past couple weeks I've been having wet dreams every 2-4 days and can rarely get a day of training in. Usually as soon as my three day break is almost up, I lapse again and have to take three more days off. This is really annoying because I'm really motivated and anxious to progress and rarely being able to train is killing my progress! I've done a bunch of research but usually the best advise people give to have less wet dreams is to masterbate or have sex. This does me absolutely no good, because the point is to not ejaculate regardless of the way you do it. I have found a few tips like sleeping on your side with one leg on top of the other and that not staying warm helps (sounds a little bit miserable), but does anyone else have any ideas that might help?
  16. Sex Crimes and the Vatican

    Considering how much abuse has gone on in the churches of the religion of Christianity, it makes the whole organized religion seem creepy to me, and like it is organized in order to control people and hide the truth from them. It's no wonder this ended up happening. Huge Sex Abuse Scandals in religions and churches http://www.npr.org/news/specials/priests/ SEX CRIMES AND VATICAN- http://vimeo.com/654677
  17. The Effects of Emasculation

    Pretty funny, I'm not saying I agree with it all, but I bet this resonates with a lot of guys these days- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5OdQGbVNa4 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZPHYPHf0PfE
  18. Dateline story on the rape of Juanita Broaddrick by Bill Clinton The 5th woman to come out publically admitting that Bill Clinton raped her was named Juanita Broaddrick. Here is an NBC story interviewing her- http://www.mrctv.org/videos/full-dateline-nbc-juanita-broaddrick-bill-clinton-raping-her Juanita Broaddrick- 2 Weeks after the rape Juanita Broaddrick was threatened and intimidated by Hillary Clinton- More info on Hillary Clinton- Hilary knew- and-
  19. There are a lot of men out there, who can't attract women. They can't get sex. Some of them are even adult virgins. Now while it is understandable that being in such a condition will cause extreme mental pain and drive men into extreme emotional distress, and in addition to that they will be viewed as deficient and socially unintelligent by others, the amount of rationalizations they engage in to explain their predicament can be just....hilarious. These rationalizations are usually in the form of extreme negativity towards women, or rationalizing that they are just ugly men and looks are everything. They obsess about their jawlines, their height, their noses, and of course, having a small chin is the ultimate indication of inferior beta male genes according to them. They also go on and on about how western culture is completely biased against and hell for ugly men. While I feel bad for the amount of intense stress these men are certainly under due to their situation, I know their rationalizations are ridiculously untrue. Looks don't mean shiat. I know from seeing in real life, a good looking guy with a beta personality has no chance, where if that same guys shows the personality of an alpha male he is in, and vice versa. P in V'gee. DTF. Down to Fuck. Looks mean nothing, and it is very unhealthy for men to worry about their looks. Looks mean nothing. I couldn't stop laughing, throughout these entire videos. omg these guys.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ukxD5Un3ucM This one is really good, laughter is very healthy, and it has been a long time since I laughed for 40 minutes straight
  20. Hi all. I am a 21 year old male who has been suffering from sexual addiction in all forms. Being compelled both spirtually and after reading some previous posts I started to do Retention practices. Really tough given my sex drive. I dont want to kill my sex drive completely but wanted to slow down as such and focuss on one woman. Ive started to focuss on turning my mind off to sexual desires and thoughts and this has helped as well. With retention I have seen massive gains in my workouts and feel far more confident about life, love, work etc. I would like to know about some other exercises that will help curb the energy. I do weight training twice a week and play league paintball (Speed ball) every Sunday. I wont lie, I enjoy a good beer or two. Should I look at increasing my workout schedual ? Other exercises to help keep my Semen count up and absourbing into my body ? (Deer exercise etc). Thank You. Newbie
  21. In Colombia a new game is being played among kids: it's called "Roulette Sexual", and the kids stand in two concentric circles, girls, boys. At a signal they get undressed from the waist down. And they need to penetrate as many girls as possible "without" ejaculating. Who ejaculates is out. The age of the participants: between 10 and 19. (probably younger kids in this range would do it among them, but I have no idea). As an additional data I will add that the age of consent in Colombia is 14. As you can expect the number of abortion has increased, and in fact it was the fact that a girl got pregnant, and she did not know who the father was alerted the parents (who I suppose alerted the authorities). There is a number of video on this kind of stuff on youtube (in Spanish), and even groups for them to organise on facebook (search term: rouleta sexual), and the age of the participants in those groups is consistent with the info above. So there are a lot of issues over here. There is the whole age factor. As people participating fall into 4 age range: adults, not adult but over the age of consent, before the age of consent but over puberty, and maybe even before puberty. Then there is the whole safety part, both respect to STD, and respect to getting pregnant especially because no protection was involved, nor any HIV test beforehand. And finally, the whole "no ejaculation". I mean, where did they got this from? Now, there are no Healing Love instructors in Colombia in the Universal Tao directory. Do you think they just figured that out by themselves? Personally I would have no problems for something similar among adult, trained taoists, who have done the necessary tests. And I am pretty sure it must have happened in the post in China. What do you think?
  22. HELPp!

    Hi, my name is Hector. I recently starded doing semen retention (currently on day 16) but I am having sex with a girl with deep breathing and without ejaculating,on the other hand, I have the opportunity to have sex with other girls,but i don't know if I should do it, so I'm very concern about how can this affect me .To clarify things a little bit more, I don't love any of this girls(including the one that I'm having sex with) in the way a husband loves his wife( very deep love) but I do enjoy their company.I guess that this is what people call friends with benefits.Obviously I do lust over them but lust is not the main reason of mi intentions, my main intention would be enjoying the moment and getting to know more how girls work but must of all my major focus is on getting the best levels of energy that I possibly can. So the direct questions would be. 1-Can having sex with my friend with benefits affect my energy in a bad way? 2-How would promiscuity affect my energy?
  23. Please dont dismiss this question as some cheesy, lame girls pick-up interest or locker-room talk, iam happy living with my girlfriend for several years now and also have broad interest in eastern body cultivating excercises and iam just describing EXTERNAL SYMPTOMS of something i believe is of greater importance going on inside the body (a natural order of things) that iam curious about - i assume it has something to do with sexuality and who knows more about sexuality than eastern philosphies... I notice this "weird" thing for several years now. Iam an average looking guy 193cm high, 30 years of age, normal physique (not athletic by any means). Normaly through out the day i dont get any significant eye-contact from girls other than typical cassual by-passing looks in public transport, shopping malls, etc... nothing significant or intentional from girls towards me... iam just an invisible average joe to unknown women... but whenever i ejaculate (masturbation or sex with my gf) the next day i feel like somebody exchanged my face for brad pitt - what iam describing next can easily happen within single day... girls going in opposite direction on street hold looong eye-contact starting from far distance and keep on looking as they walk past me, when sitting in metro some girls cant help looking away and than back at me and than away and after a while back at me - several times, sometimes across the whole metro vagon - sometimes i must almost escape from the metro its almost unconfortable... (iam not the kind of guy who is like a fish in a water flirting with girls), but there is more... occasionally some girl park a totaly zoned-out "dear cought in head light" frozen stare at me until she realises and looks away... the weirdest example must be when i pass by on long metro escalators (slowly going up) and there is a girl going opposite direction (down) which doesnt see me at all - she is looking away but suddenly she almost twitch her head around and looks directly at me and stares for a while - almost as an animal catching a sniff of pray in a wind - he twitches his head in the incoming direction and hypnotise the prey... this happend to me few times already and only on days after ejaculation (24 hours)... i also get these "electrical" looks, where we meet in same shopping mall with particular girl several times during 1 hour (she is shopping around, iam shopping around so we pass by, here and there) and each and every time she looks at me for looong time - after about 5th "loong and electrifing" look across the ailes within few minutes we both start to laugh... the previous examples can all accumulate within 1 day when i cruise the city - its like waking up in a crazy hollywood film for 24 hours - i turn from regular joe to playgirl model, just for 1 day how do i know this is not placebo ? because after about 24 hours its gone TOTALLY - no matter what i do the following days (stand on my head) girls just dont see me - iam invisible regular joe again... this can go for week or more (sometimes i have sex but dont ejaculate), until i ejaculate again - BANG ive got 24 hours in the "spotlight", regular as a clockwork... the difference is so striking (normal days vs. 1 day after ejaculation) and so perfectly time-constrained it cant be coincidence or placebo... Before you condemn this text as pubescent locker-room talk - try to imagine yourself in this "unwanted" or unplaned situtation - i love my girlfriend and have no intention to cheat on her but every time i ejaculate (masturbation or sex) for 24 hours ONLY i wake up in this other reality where beautifull girls really do give me signs of favour and price - its a textbook example of potence and i believe it all comes back into a circle of sexuality, health, life vigour and energy - its just fantastic feeling for a man no matter if you have a loving and stable relationship or not. But after 24h you crash back on earth. I dont know many man who honestly wouldnt want to investigate whats behind this sudden fluctuation if sexual potence.
  24. Here Owen Cook gives a video blog talk about meditation, focusing on the practical aspects
  25. For more information about the ongoing sexual abuse by Sogyal Rinpoche see: http://behindthethangkas.wordpress.com http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/belief/2011/jul/01/lama-sex-abuse-sog... http://thedorjeshugdengroup.wordpress.com/2012/03/27/sogyal-rinpoche-and-the-...