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  1. Overview I've been thinking lately about how much the porn industry and media impact our life. Just taking a look about the most used websites in different countries, the porn websites holds the top 5 most visited websites. which means that a lot of people use the internet to access porn and sexual contents. The majority of porn users are men and youth according to some statistics. in other words, the porn industry have a very big impact on our daily life and affects the way we feel, we see ourselves, the opposite or same sex and sexualize our social life. Of course, with porn comes masturbation, and it is the addiction of the century, it is the technique used by the mind in order to escape feelings and emotions that arises, ending up with a need to release the dopamine and not deal with these deep issues. Masturbation makes you blind. Most of us, when we were young, we laughed at when we were told that masturbation will get you blind, because we thought that blindness meant to describe the inability to see with our eyes, and it was proved that none of the people who mastubate became blind because of masturbating. but blindness, is not referring to the eyes vision, it is more of consciousness and awareness of our own selves, our own emotions that point us to the deep traumas and issues registered in our subconscious and body. and that masturbation is an escapism due to the dopamine that is pumped in our brain due to orgasm make us avoid dealing with our internal issues. Energy and cultivation According to my observations, i did notice that porn affect a lot emotions in terms of making us objectify other people and enhance separation and decrease the ability to understand the person beyond the physicality. Also, masturbation does render the focus/intent very loose, it can be noticed if someone practices vipassana meditation, (where you scan the body and feel it with your focus) focusing and sensing of the body parts becomes very hard and superficial. Also, in masturbation Jing gets depleted and it is known that it is one of the 3 treasures of Traditional chinese medicine. all of my male friends, watch porn a lot and have developed fetiches and want to get into a relationship to experience all of those positions and fetishes that are extreme and have gained a lot of weird sex beliefs and seems like how the majority of people think and believe. Also, i have noticed that the body by itself doesn't get turned on sexually, a person becomes horny due to thoughts that were activated due to stimulus: porn, media, pictures, imagination or a dream. Also, Porn industry has added a lot of exotic values like "you must lose virginity before a certain age" "you should experience this fetish, that kind of person, size, height...." "jerking off is a must and healthy" "sex is very important" "size matters" .....etc of other values and ideas. What do you think about what is going on in our society and how the people are being programmed into a society that is primarily motivated by sex through the encouragement of mastubation and porn? how is it affecting our love life, spiritual life and our ability to think clearly, focus and make progress in our life.
  2. I m used to jerk off like everyday or every day and another (i m young )... one day i took the decision to stop due to some spiritual belief and for healthiness.. After stopping for a month or so.. everything starts to turn you on, and you find yourself being aggressive and wanting to read or check anything sexual and such. started googling around to see opinions and such about stopping how it is beneficial and other how it is not.. then i found the middle way... it was mantak chia and orgasming without ejaculation.... i became expert and had up to 10 orgasms without ejaculation and no problems... but i analysed why i did that... because what i was liking and draining my energy and such... wasn't the ejaculation, but actually dopamine that is being dumped in my mind once i orgasm... it is also related to making your mind little foggy and decrease thoughts. edging or semen retention = high rush of dopamine for a longer period of time. and mantak chia, and sperm retention was just an excuse for me to reach what i want (dopamine) under a theme of spirituality and healthiness. if you want to stop.. you stop without any other technique. even tho i read that if you don't jerk off, your penis may shrink and you become more sensitive and ejaculate early ...etc of bad stuff... but at the same time jerking off takes A LOT of energy that sometimes i feel very very tired. i would like to hear other's opinion about this subject
  3. Negs and Addiction

    This reality of ours is a little more complicated than general opinion would have it. There are independent forces, entities and energies that could severely influence a person's life, health and luck. I have regularly disregarded this aspect of my existence, because there were usually simpler explanations for things that would go wrong in my life. I have studied Robert Bruce's work on Negs (Negatives), from The Practical Psychic Self-Defense Handbook, and I have come to realize how these forces have influenced my life since my childhood. I was almost shocked to discover just how much these negative forces have had a hold on me. I am 75 days celibate for the first time in my life, since starting self gratification. After a serious struggle of temptation at day 60 (which I overcame) I decided to cleanse my room and house of negs, explicitly for the first time ever. That heavy, carnal temptation has been gone ever since, and I cannot even be bothered to become aroused anymore. Looking back at my childhood I can recall multiple near-fatal attacks by dogs, freak events where I was singled out amongst other children, attacks which were stopped miraculously just in time. Dogs can sense neg-attachments and become maliciously agitated toward the host. My mother is and has always been sadly depressive, with many unexplained lumps always appearing on her body. She has seen plenty of specialists over the years, but could never get an explanation or treatment for it. There has always been tension and problems between my mother and father, and our home environment was at times distinctly negative. My parents are Christian however, and have always abstained from alcohol and drugs. Yet, negs look for any opening whatsoever to latch on to, and turn slight negativity into something worse. I can look back in my life and see where possible neg-attachments have sullied my social life especially. So two-weeks ago when I did the house cleansing, through visual imagery of electric-violet fire throwing and lifting of vibration, I could afterward sense the distinct change in atmosphere. I believe that I have reduced, even removed, neg-attachments that fed off my sexual gratification. I feel so much cleaner after then, since there is no undue powers that affect my behaviour unnaturally. Interesting things about negs is that they can be grounded electrically. If you have a new neg attacking you, then by walking over a running stream or garden hose the neg will be stopped at the running stream. If you return to the original side the neg will attack you again. Certain buildings and places with particular plumbing and electrical wiring can trap negs inside, resulting in haunted spaces. Places of ill repute, especially where addicts gather, fester with negs which you can pick up like gum on your shoe. I distinctly remember numerous social excursions where I returned home with severe, unexplained pains in my body, like somebody kicked me in my back and head. Since I started treasuring vitality, doing QiGong, and strengthening my energy body, I have been better able to deal with these negs. Negs prefer dark spaces, so if you stand in daylight then superficial negs will be banished, at least for the time being. Bad smells without a logical explanation can indicate neg presences. If a person has hateful thoughts about you, it could instigate a neg attack on you. In my opening remark I mentioned that life is not as simple as it seems. If you tick somebody off, even over the internet, you could unwittingly invoke a neg attack. And the truth is, we are all very very familiar with neg attacks. Ever been in an uncomfortable social situation with a lot of negativity, it probably messed up the rest of your day, possibly causing digestive problems like an upset stomach? Negative entities, such as some earth-bound spirits, latch onto humans and influence them to vicariously experience indulgence in certain addictions. That is why especially drug and alcohol addicts have such messed up lives, and so many additional negative things in their lives. These negs really have a powerful hold on addicts, rewarding them for indulgence and pestering and punishing them when abstaining. Below is an account by famous mystic, Aunt Clair, of an exorcism of a drug-addicts home and inmates http://forums.riverofenlightenment.com/index.php/topic,1023.0.html
  4. Im posting this in the Taoist discussion because the technique I wil be introducing works with the energy system using a chinese acupressure technique and the person that taught it to me was a Taoist. If it belongs in another section, I'm sorry. So, to give more significance to this technique I want to tell the story of how I came across it and how I completely 360'd out of mental illness into a life of happiness and spirituality with it. It is called the emotional freedom technique. And it will probably seem a little goofy to you until you experience the benefits for yourself. Or accept the benefits instead of refusing to leave your paradigm, which I will explain later. The emotional freedom technique uses tapping on your acupressure points, repeating a phrase, all while experiencing and concentrating on the emotion you don't want, to remove the emotion you don't want, leading to insight, and of course the removal of your fear or anger, depending on what you're experiencing. So, a long time ago, when I was around 11, I came down with a fear of being around other people. I played the victim and was able to get out of school at around 12, locked myself in my room, played world of warcraft until 5 in the morning, slept all day, masturbated 2-4 times after waking up to pornography, thought extensively to the point of exhaustion, grew a hardcore hatred for people and the world, had large bags under my eyes by the time i was 13, slept 15 hours a day and was still tired when waking up, by the time I was 16 I was in jail for drugs, turned 18 in jail, got out, was still a miserable jerk. Then only when I was backed into a corner and had no way out, did I finally try this technique. I was in therapy seeing the same therapist since I was 13. He taught me the emotional freedom technique multiple times. I would go in, we would do a routine with the technique, and literally right before my eyes, after doing the technique, a gigant series of emotional traumatic nonsense would disappear completely out of reality, losing every single ounce of effect it had on me. Maybe a dislike for women, or an anger toward my dad, whatever it was, in those sessions I would get rid of something. I would unblock the energy. Then why didn't I get better you might ask? I didn't get better because I refused to accept that it had happened. It was incredibly bizarre. Fear I had toward confronting my dad would disappear, but I would play it off as a placebo or just completely ignore it all together and forget it had happened. Meanwhile, I still had a whole gigant load of terrible stuff I was holding onto that I could have gotten rid of with the technique, but didn't, because the idea that I could get rid of it by tapping on myself was too stupid to believe. It didn't fit into my belief system, and because of that, I didn't use the technique. Even though I had seen it work, I didn't believe it worked. But at some point after getting out of jail and moving back in with my family, it was either do something or this is the end. So, I did something. I used all of my anger and turned it into energy for meditation. For 4 days I did a routine of sitting and walking meditation for 30 minutes each. I made the intention to do it for 10, but it didn't last. However, during the first 4 hours, I got up to walk, and I realized that all of my rapidly changing moods were impermenent and not really a big deal. I also realized the nature of the body to surcome to injury and illness and broke attachment to it for a little while. However, I wasn't getting better fast enough, and something else happened. So I used my meditation motivation and started using the emotional freedom technique. At the time I was living in the ghetto. I was still an agrophobic, afraid to leave my house, especially in the neighborhood I was in. But to use the emotional freedom technique, I needed to bring up the emotions before I could get rid of them. So I went outside and sat on a chair on my porch. I started by waving at cars that drove by. At the time, that brought up incredibly embarassing feelings and I felt like an idiot. But I just tapped and they went away. Eventually I developed a routine of doing walking meditation in my front yard while tapping on myself while cars went by. This led to my dad making fun of me and embarassing my family, but I continued. And this started a whole stream of me purposely doing things that I was afraid of or felt stupid doing so I could get rid of these things. As I tapped and got rid of all of this trash inside of my body and mind, hate, fear, insecurity, I physically felt the organs and liver and the inside of my stomach moving and readjusting itself, as if recovering from a terrible accident. My body was healing before my eyes, my mind was changing as if I was transforming into a completely different being. All of the nonsense I believed was disappearing and being replaced by love. I started to walk around day and night with a backpack and county map searching for my fears so I could face them. Once a cynical basement dwelling terribly afraid child, I had become a wandering ascetic in search of transformation. Every feeling I got rid of was replaced by clear sight and peace. The things I once hid from I began to welcome. The people that were suppose to be helping me, I became their teacher. The more I told this to my therapist, the more we connected. It turns out he was a Taoist, and the techniques he teaches,not just the emotional freedom technique, had to do with moving with the way, unblocking energy, healing with shaministic theory. And I witnessed groups with him doing different techniques on people. Seeing other people go through this process is quite strange. As one problem fades, another comes up behind it. Sometimes they don't even know. Sometimes, even though they can get rid of suffering, they would sometimes rather just complain about it, because they have justified their own suffering to cope with it, so it is ok for them to suffer and they don't want to get rid of it. It is almost like witnessing the paranormal seeing a part of someone that they believe to be themself, that they have had for the last 20 or 30 years ruining their life, just disappear in the blink of an eye, then watch that person deny that it had happened, while at the same time admitting that their problem is gone. For example, there was a person that was terrified of ladders. He wouldn't go within a hundred yards of a ladder and if he did he would freak out. The therapist had him use eft, and he just went and climed up and down a ladder. So when they asked him how great it was that eft did that, like the freakin twilight zone, he denied that the technique did that and said he never had a problem to begin with. I was told this was because people live in a certain paradigm that they sometimes can't step out of. There was a story once of an advanced meditator that was having a heart attack. He called his son away from the dinner table calmly, walked him outside, and told him he was having a heart attack and to drive him to the hospital after dinner. So the son drove him to the hospital, and he told the doctors. They said it was bs, couldn't be happening, and they wouldn't treat him. So he ended up dying of a heart attack right in the hospital. And since it wasn't within a doctors paradigm to believe that someone could be having a heart attack while being that calm, they just ignored it. It's like the skeptic that argues with someone that healed themselves of cancer with qi gong. Even though this person had cancer, and as soon as she started qi gong it went away, it's outside of his paradigm to understand this. So it must be some kind of placebo he says. Dr david r hawkins described this as being on different energy levels. Or different planes of consciousness. Anyways, I've kind of lost interest in typing this. The whole point I think was to tell you how well eft works. If you have major emotional issues meditation can take a while to get rid of them. The eft technique can just blow them into the wind with a few rounds. So check it out and good luck.
  5. Hi all. I am a 21 year old male who has been suffering from sexual addiction in all forms. Being compelled both spirtually and after reading some previous posts I started to do Retention practices. Really tough given my sex drive. I dont want to kill my sex drive completely but wanted to slow down as such and focuss on one woman. Ive started to focuss on turning my mind off to sexual desires and thoughts and this has helped as well. With retention I have seen massive gains in my workouts and feel far more confident about life, love, work etc. I would like to know about some other exercises that will help curb the energy. I do weight training twice a week and play league paintball (Speed ball) every Sunday. I wont lie, I enjoy a good beer or two. Should I look at increasing my workout schedual ? Other exercises to help keep my Semen count up and absourbing into my body ? (Deer exercise etc). Thank You. Newbie