So something you hear a lot about these days, is that fewer people especially men, are having sex than ever before. It’s quite bizarre.
i remember about 10 years ago people would talk about the huge rates of “herbivore men” in Japan who never had sex, and you’d think that could never happen here.
It seems the phenomenon has come to the west now too though.
People have tried to blame everything from tinder, to low t levels, to porn, and the bitter and misogynistic have even tried to blame women.
I think only I have identified one crucial factor though. And that’s the maturity and development of the people’s personalities.
One thing that’s been universally observed by almost anyone I know of who pays attention to these things, is that guys who are good at the courtship process, who connect easily with women, or who understand how to communicate with the gender of their choice, always start off at a young age.
Think of the male gender for example, when two men communicate it’s almost always a logical discussion.They have no inborn desire to speak to each other in emotional terms cuz they never got any evolutionary advantage from it, so see no value in it. But when interacting with a woman in a romantic context, well that will usually require speaking on an emotional level. Women will often appreciate a man speaking in Emotional terms.
That requires a bit of effort and learning as it may not come naturally to a lot of dudes.
So think about it, who is the more socially, mentally, and emotionally developed person? The one who has been dating and had relationships since they were 15 or a 19 year old who has no experience? Let’s say they both are 20 and both have crushes on the same girl. Who’s gonna get her? the guy who has been dating and had relationships since he was 15 or the 20 year old virgin?
It’s obvious who’s gonna get the girl
No different than a pianist with 5 years experience playing in a concert against a total noob. It’s a no contest.
A lot of reports also say that in places where men are more timid or less experienced like Norway, Sweden etc. it’s easier for a man to convince a woman to cheat on a bf or leave a bf. It may very well be true.
So if you want to know why there are so many sexless adult men who as a result must be emotionally stunted, I think you gotta look at age of virginity stats.
It appears the trend has been going for a long time actually. Since at least 1991.
So it seems the logical conclusion is that in general, there's gonna be more awkward stunted guys and fewer confident naturals than ever before.