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  1. Buddhist Roots of Vedanta

    It is a standard habit of the brahmins to put the blame of their misfortunes o evil actions on either the british, muslims or the untouchables. Why blame the british for caste system, dowry sati devdasi etc? In fact most of the reformist hindu movements like brahmo, arya, vivekananda etc arose during british rule due to their influence. It was british raj which first banned sati, which qas immensely protested by hindus. And by the way, it is common knowledge that most rapes in india go unreported because of the sham2 involved. Even many educated indians, including lawyers blame the girls for getting raped. A rape victim can even be otcasted by society, so it is very rare for them to report. It used to be common traditionof the bhumihar brahmins in bihar to rape women of dalits and tribes to assert their power. You just cannot compare the American society with a conservative third world society like india. Shankara plagiarized much more than buddhist scriptures to create advaita and modern hiduism. The advaita systemof mutts andmonasticism is a direct rip off of buddhist sangha and vihara. Even the dres and shaved headss come from there!
  2. How to get rid of lust?

    I remember starting exactly the same thread (http://www.thetaobums.com/index.php?/topic/16350-practices-to-reduce-or-eliminate-the-influence-of-lust/) about a month ago because I was also looking to get rid of all the conditioning of mind by pornographic influences. There were various opinions provided by many bums there. But personally, what worked the best for me was the to increase my physical activity. As such I had always been of a more athletic nature, and regularly run/jog and practice martial arts. But the period when that activity had reduced for me, lust seems to have gained greater influence in my mind. However, after again reverting to my routine physical exercises, I could once again defeat lust. Not to say that now I don't get aroused by looking at something sensual, but that my mind is strong enough for me to not look at it at the first place! Seating meditation never worked for me; on the contrary, if I sit in meditation for some time, I tend to get spontaneous erections! So I guess everyone will have to find their own way of controlling their desires. Defeating desires/attachments is all Buddhism/Taoism is about after all.
  3. Natural Gate Boxing

    I had researched about this style a few years ago because I was quite interested in it. Basically, the style emphasizes natural reflexes and high level qing gong (light skill) along with other usual methods involving Qi gong. Du Xinwu, the teacher of Wan Lai Sheng, was very famous in Japan for his fighting ability. His qing gong was of such high level that once he could leap from a ship to a boat following it at some distance. THis is definitely a style I would have preferred if available. Wan Lai Sheng looks thin but he was known to be an incredible fighter. I think there is a European called Serge Augier who was his student and probably a disciple too.
  4. I would like to add that what I am feeling right now could be summarized by the analogous saying "the more your un after women, the more they run away from"; only in my case "women" could be substituted for "sexual pleasure". There was a time when if I looked at a hot girl, I would instantly be excited. But at the same time, I my mind was strong enough that despite getting excited I wouldn't be compelled to masturbate or fantasize. I would just forget it and move on. Nowadays if I were to look even at a girl doing pole dance and trying to seduce me, my body wouldn't be excited (and even my mind wouldn't be too desirous). Yet it is in my current state the I tend to pursue anything that should excite me. Getting excited through sexual stimulus is fine for me, but not getting excited by sexual stimulus, and yet more glued to it, is not fine (and this is how I would define being lusty). I don't know what I did in the past couple of months that brought such change in me. Perhaps it might have to do with the facts that I had a gf back then and I am single now. Or that I began smoking (although limited to 2-3 cigs a day) and reduced my physical exercises to a great extent. Also, I used to respect women at that time. For example, if I were to meet a prostitute, instead of getting the feeling to take her to bed desperately (though without any actual arousal)which I would get now, I would actually feel sympathy for her to be reduced to trading sex for money. And seriously, I am not liking all this change. I have observed that when you have a strong mind that is not easily moved by lust, your body would be highly integrated with your mind; and it will react instantly to you mind's desires. However, when you are too lusty, the disconnects grows a lot. I know subconsciously that once I revert back to my previous schedules and habits, my mind might perhaps become the same as it was before - that is strongly immune to sexual influences; and my body and mind would have great integrity. That is why I wanted to ask you bums to suggest me a way that would help me with my celibacy plan, which is to further purify myself of previous bad experiences that have conditioned my mind in a bad way. Of course, you all know how programmable our mind is!
  5. Thanks for all those replies and taking the discussion further. But unfortunately, most of you misunderstood me. I will attempt to explain it more articulately this time. This is my belief - correct me if I am wrong as it this belief is supported by my intuition and instinct - that lust alone is not bad at all. Buddha has himself said that sexual misconduct is demerit and right sex is merit. That means sex when done under the base of love and trust is actually a merit and brings good karma. Lust comes when you randomly develop a great urge - mostly habitually - to look at porn and sexual material to stimulate you sexually. Sex is natural when you get stimulated and then act. But lust is when you try to stimulate yourself even when your body may not want it - lust is more like a urge to feel pleasure. When you get aroused with your partner and have sex, then it is actually a good thing. I do not want to loose this. What I want to loose is the urge to get aroused. This is a state that shows great disconnect between your body and mind. And contrary to popular belief, a lusty person may want to develop great desire or get aroused, but his body may not respond. A normal person will develop desire under appropriate condition (when he is with his partner, and as soon as his mind is filled with desire, his body will respond by getting aroused (erection, hightened senses etc). This shows great integrity between mind and body. A normal person - in fact a great person in today's world! - wouldn't want to habitually go and try to forcefully get aroused. It is because of bad experiences or habits or conditioning of mind, I have developed this urge to watch porn and get arousal. Although, frankly speaking, while writing this post, as I am in deep thinking, and aware of what happens, my lusty nature has suddenly subsided. But whatever, it is the balance between mind and body that I want. People should cry when their heart is heavy, they should eat when their stomach is empty, and they should have sex when they are aroused (which in the normal case, they should be only with a trusted partner). But what when the mind wants desire but the body doesn't react? For all I care, I would actually prefer to be a guy who gets straight erection at the sight of an attractive girl; but I would never want to be a person who keeps looking at porn and still gets no satisfaction, proper arousal etc. I hope you understood me now.
  6. I am recently being gripped more and more by the influence and attachment of lust. Consciously I always realize it strongly within my mind that imagining the girl sitting on the bench in a park is with me on bed and doing "weird" things is not only useless and fruitless, but also detrimental for my mental and emotional health as well as an obstruction on the way to Tao. So please suggest me some techniques, practices, meditations, methods or whatever that will allow me to either eliminate or reduce the growing force of lust in my mind. I want to go back to the days when I wouldn't be lusty after checking out random chicks or would be watching porn so often. Frankly speaking, I may be more lusty now, but really even if I were to really have sex with some Hot chick I wouldn't feel as much pleasure as when I was a more "decent" and balanced individual who was not easily influenced by sensual desires. Its just somehow my mind is hungry for sex, but never satisfied even when "fed" with that. Well, frankly speaking my condition is not as bad as it may sound from my post; in fact, I think I am still not in the situation where I masturbate everyday watching porn or so conditioned sexually by porn that I wouldn't get any pleasure when I have to really act that. But still, I am concerned because I know that the compartment of lust grows by reducing that of love (and in fact lust reduces real pleasure as well; think about it). I do not want to be glued to the computer just because I happened to have ended up at a site with an Ad of a semi-naked girl making sensual moves and then moved on to browse more and more (perhaps its curiosity as well). I know I was better before. Even if I ended up in a porn site, I would really get filled with desires (in other words, get an erection). Now I dont really feel as much bodily pleasure and desire after coming across anything sensual in nature, yet my "hunger" to look at it more and more has increased much than before. Anyway, my history aside, I would really like some suggestions on how to reduce the influence of lust. I have actually decided to walk the path of celibacy for at least quite some time (may be half a year or one year) so as to again "purify" my mind that is conditioned so much with all the past experiences (of watching porn and fantasizing about sex with strangers). I am sure some kind of meditation would help. But my experience is that if not done in regularity, even meditation actually acts as a catalyst to make my mind more vulnerable to the magnet pull of sexual objects. This if from experience. Often when I have meditated after a long period, I end up getting aroused more easily. But when I have practiced it for quite some time regularly, then it indeed leads to a stronger mind that is not easily influenced by sense and desires. Lately, due to job change and hectic schedule, I have been skipping not only meditation, but also my physical exercises. I am sure this is a major reason for the shift in the strength of my mind in getting enslaved by attachment and desire.
  7. References of Qi/prana in Buddhist texts

    I thank all of you for replying and giving links. May you all reach enlightenment soon.
  8. Have the Buddhists of the past ever extensively, or even briefly, expounded the concept of "Qi" in their literature? Of course, it goes without saying that I am talking about the Buddhism of India (all three vehicles) before it was mixed with Taoism in China. I would like to know the literature that deals with concepts of Qi in Buddhism.
  9. Loneliness

    Non, This is the best way for you to apply the theories of Taoism. Remember, the more you crave for attention, the lesser you will get it. The more you run after girls, the further they will go away from you. Look at the likes of Bodhidharma, Lao Tzu etc. Nobody knows anything about them. They didn't care about fame and name, but only wanted to go away from society. But not only the people around them know them so well today, but all over the world their names are quite easily heard nowadays. But still they wouldn't care I am sure. The more you run after sex, the more you think about it all day, the more you invest time in trying to improve sex, the lesser you will enjoy it. Thats the reality. Its the law of the world. Perverts don't enjoy sex and thats why they keep pursuing it to finally achieve that ultimate and completely satisfying orgasm which they never get, because it doesn't exist. But all this doesn't mean that to get better sex, you should deliberately run away from it. Of course, its the intention that matters. As long as you have the craving, you will never be satisfied. You want the company of opposite sex so desperately. But I can guarantee you - you can mark my words - the day you really get what you desire, you will be quite amazed that it wasn't worth so much craving and efforts. You would still feel unsatisfied and crave for even more; because then you would be desperate in searching for the great thing that you had always been desiring which turned out to be so mundane (but which in reality has always been mundane). The aim is to not think too much. And you are doing exactly that.
  10. Loneliness

    Non, Since now you've compelled me to reply I will go a bit on my personal life. Thats because nobody here knows who I am except my nick (I wouldn't like to be known beyond that either). Whatever symptoms you have given are still that of the first kind among my classification. I also lost virginity relatively late in life (22 yrs). But I was never desperate to loose it in the first place. I respected girls and womankind in general and even when my bodily desires compelled my mind to perceive woman with lust (which happened many many times) for a moment, my respect for the beauty of women, overtook the lost always. I was a little shy of girls too. On top of that, it has always been my luck that I had very few girls around me where ever I went. I still waited. Then one day I fell in love with a girl. I was deeply in love. It was more like a fantasy love where I care for my girl a lot, loved her, and tried to make her as happy as I could. I did not even care about sex for the first few months. Because that was not important. Then one day I lost virginity. And we both made love a couple of times more subsequently. We both loved each other a lot and this reflected even on bed. But then things changed, mistakes happened, suspicion, betrayal etc. My heart was shattered too like hers. Months went by and slowly I began to accept the reality. My body had been perhaps desiring sex, but my mind was still deep beneath the sea of emotions for her. I went to another place, away from her. May be it was a sense of revenge too in my mind, because I ultimately decided to have sex with a prostitute. Perhaps it must have been loneliness too as I was new in the city. But when I went to bed with her, I felt nothing at all. Nothing. All my lust that had been growing over these months suddenly got destroyed. I also felt a strong sense of guilt for doing whatever I was doing. I realized that sex is not everything. It is in fact nothing great for people to run after it so madly. I have learned a lesson now and have resumed my life as before. I no longer crave for sex. Perhaps some amount of love still exists in my heart for my ex...but thats all. Besides, that I have no other craving. Also, in the wild every Tiger has his tigresses who have territories surrounding the male's territory. And it is usually the Tigresses that go to the Tiger when its the season. But the Tiger still remains alone.
  11. Loneliness

    I have always been a solitary individual since a very young age. And I enjoy and cherish my solitude. There are two kinds of loneliness:- 1. Loneliness when you feel depressed due to being alone and crave for society and company. 2. Loneliness that you enjoy and which gives you peace and happiness. Most people fall into the first category. Humans are social animals just like wolves, Lions, wild dogs etc. So no wonder that most really only feel safe in a group. But a Tiger roams the jungle alone and not tolerates even his own kind. He lives with pride and peace alone. I would rather like being the Tiger than being an alpha, beta or zeta wolf in a pack.
  12. Is it the Heat or the size?

    So therefore, more heat implies that there is more blood flow? Which further means that the hardness is more?
  13. Is it the Heat or the size?

    Since there have been so many threads opening related to sex lately, I also thought of opening a thread related to something that I have always wondered. It is no wonder that people often think that the size of the penis decides how good you will be on bed and how happy you can make your woman. Some people think that it is the hardness and not the length, yet others feel that thickness is of the most importance to satisfy any girl. My viewpoint is quite different however. I believe that hardness, length etc are only secondary parameters, where as it is the peak temperature during arousal which decides how good the orgasm you will impart on the girl. Temperature of the penis goes quite high during intercourse. Is that temperature a good measure of the pleasure that the partners receive?
  14. Many of the accomplished practitioners of Taoism and other similar traditions were smoking addicts. The best example I could come up with is John Chang. I saw him smoking a cigarette in one of his videos in youtube. Now definitely, this means that smoking actually doesn't impede growth in spiritual cultivation. Is this true? Of course it goes without saying that not smoking and taking any intoxicants would always be advantageous in any tradition. But in what way could smoking affect our body according to Taoist (or any similar tradition) point of view? How does it affect the chi? I am aware that many expert internal martial artists of China have been smokers and some of them also went on to lead long lives. But from the point of view of modern medicine and human physiology, smoking is actually very harmful to the body and can become reason for various illnesses. This begs another question. If those "masters" of their arts (whether martial arts or simple spiritual cultivation) are so accomplished - which means they have great will power - then why can't they eliminate their addiction?
  15. How to improve concentration

    Observing the breath or focussing your mind on the abdomen while sitting in lotus (full or half) posture can be very beneficial for developing concentration. Another method is to make a small dot using a pen on a white paper and then stick the paper to the wall, sit in lotus posture and focus with your eyes on that dot. You will realize how difficult it is indeed to achieve full concentration. Even while you are trying hard to concentrate on that dot, your eyes will naturally deviate and point here and there around the dot.