Armando

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  1. Durgā: An Alternative to “Femininity”

    Recently, I read an article somewhere about the best ways of ending a romantic relationship. The author was considering various scenarios and factors. For contrast, she was also talking about the not-so-good ways of going about this. According to her, one of the worst methods of breaking up is making a drama and covering one's unsuspecting partner with a bunch of accusations. The author considers it cowardly and commonly causing months or years of continuing pain in one or both of the ex-partners. Yet this is what I see happening in so many cases, including my student's that I mentioned above. (I tend to read and ponder on such things because students frequently seek my advice in that kind of matter...)
  2. Simply going with the flow is excellent advice as long as the water is relatively calm. 😃
  3. Pornography, Energy Loss, Social Discourse

    I was told it is based on the Maithuna tradition. The idea being that you cannot reach Buddhahood leaving any aspect of your being out of the picture. Therefore, Tibetan Buddhism is a way of true self-integration. And actually, I was more than just being told about what I mentioned. More like being taken to a place that took me a full three days to recover from afterwards. 😃 Forgive me for not sharing any further details at this time, though. I was told to treat those things with discretion. And again and again, I can see the wisdom in this... As those practises are not without danger without proper preparation and guidance. And yes, there is much to explore without touching the more extreme realms of experience.
  4. Pornography, Energy Loss, Social Discourse

    Any kind of exaggerated (addictive) behaviour can be damaging to someone's energy system. And yet on the higher levels of Tantric Buddhism, we sometimes teach to indulge in the 'poison' and to use this as an opportunity for gaining insight and awareness.
  5. 'Egoistic' in common usage is synonymous with selfish, self-indulgent, etc. So I used 'egotistic' instead, as I simply meant to say 'in reference to the ego'. English is not my first language, and perhaps the two terms could actually be used interchangeably. However, I try to make subtle distinctions to the best of my ability, as I am aware that languages in general tend to be unprecise when it comes to matters of the mind and spirit - and sometimes their ambiguities and implied assumptions are tainting our perception of things. In my understanding, the 'voice' of intuitive guidance comes from the level of our own Buddhahood. That's not what I meant to say, but there is a very interesting thought in this: That what other people are telling us reflects what we are saying to ourselves on some level. If that's what you thought I might be saying.
  6. Things always tend to get messy as long as our awareness is restricted by the limits of the egotistic (NOT egoistic!) mind. We must penetrate beyond that in order to stably function from a level of undistorted and trustworthy inner information. There is a learning process involved. At the end of the day, only experience will allow us to sort out the different voices that are constantly talking in and to us from different levels of self. And even though there are no hard and fast rules, it is usually not the loudest voice that offers the best guidance. Regular meditative practice goes a long way developing our sensitivity to deeper levels of self that are tuned into universal knowledge.
  7. I agree. And there is a misconception among spiritually minded people that seeking or having power is a bad thing. It is not, if the power is used with wisdom and compassion.
  8. Aurobindo Anyone?

    While I agree that something transits through every death regardless of whatever spiritual realisation you may or may not have attained, the question remains how much of what you recognise as your identity you can take with you to another plane. And some kind of "death" exists not on the physical level alone. At least that's the view of various traditions, including the Tibetan one. And that's why we dedicate ourselves to the creation of what we call the diamond body. Paradoxically, building it up leads to the shedding of some layers of self already while we are physically still alive!
  9. Abortion

    How would this be different from killing a born child? Or an adult, for that matter? Wouldn't it be logical to say that still no murder took place? That only a, well, actual body has been disallowed? Big deal... The soul just travelled on! Where would you draw the line?
  10. very advanced energy practice

    Could you elaborate on the highlighted part, please? Cause I feel what you have described may be part of what happened in the case I described in two previous posts:
  11. BON What are your favorite practices?

    That's a method from Tibetan Buddhism that can be used for healing and transforming any kind of difficult emotion. I gave detailled instructions for it here:
  12. BON What are your favorite practices?

    It was one of the things that attracted to me to Buddhism in the first place that it doesn't teach us to run away from life's more difficult aspects, but to accept them and to use them as stepping stones towards greater awareness. As a matter of fact, Gautama's eyes were opened when he became aware of the darkness that surrounded him. @Pilgrim Have you tried Tonglen for dealing with your sadness?
  13. Durgā: An Alternative to “Femininity”

    Durga is a deity and an archetypal force respectively that can show herself in many different ways. So here I am primarily referring to what I specifically observed in my student's case. To elaborate on the specifics of that interesting case some more, based on the details she later shared: So my student and her former boyfriend had formed a strong attachment to each other, which she described to me as a mutual "addiction". This was obviously the result of certain shared characteristics and psychological needs. However, after the relationship had run into some difficulties, she eventually 'demonised' him as a vicious tempter. At the same time, she cut herself off of what she now despised as 'that needy part' of herself she held responsible for leading her into a difficult place. Outwardly, she bombarded the man she had once loved so dearly with reproaches, even and especially for things they had both enjoyed previously as a part of their togetherness. Of course, he didn't know what was happening, couldn't cope with this unexpected turn of events and reacted from a place of hurt and pain, which - not surprisingly - she took as further confirmation of her demonic picture of him. It is rather interesting that you mentioned 'shadow aspects of the goddesses' in one of your previous posts, because in cases like the one shared, to a substantial extent, it is indeed the casting of our own shadow self that will invariably taint our perception of the other person. At any rate, that way she gained emotional distance from her partner, so she felt free to explore other directions in her life. However, at the same time, she had forfeited what could have been a continuous source of joy and spiritual growth, had she been able to deal with the challenges involved. Which relates to what I shared elsewhere about the Tantric path of using addiction as a path to greater integration and depth of self. Part of that would have required both of them to work through a place of pain and difficulty, to be sure, but I believe that that couple - given their shared sense of being 'soul-mates' that my student mentioned in restrospect - would have had the potential to eventually arrive at a place of mutual understanding and harmony - including any necessary adaptations regarding the terms of their relationship. Sadly, this is rarerely the case in our modern age of fast, disposable relationships, especially in western cultures. Now I decided to talk about this particular case at some length because it exemplifies what in my observation - in some variation or another - happens in so many relationships. And while what I shared by no means defines Durga's full scope of action, it is true that once she "sticks you in her box marked 'demon' and keeps you there for a long time" (what a telling description!), invariably a part of her own joyfulness and brightness will be going into that box too.
  14. The Transformation of Emotions

    I agree. It's good to be as objective as we can regarding our more difficult emotions, and that includes identifying and defining them correctly.
  15. Durgā: An Alternative to “Femininity”

    Yes, it fits exactly! Yes, and watching her humourless callousness can be disconcerting.