(Note: the following was prepare before SeekerOfHealing's amendation, but when I tried to post it, Dao Bums was down, and since it was late at night where I live, I wasn't going to wait for Dao Bums to return. However it is still relevant, as SeekerOfHealing's amendation is not a stellar achievement. (My, what a stylistic travesty, parentheses within parentheses, but it's a joke, asterisk = star, so despite the appearance of the asterisk, no star for his changes.))
. . . get that energy back like white tigress. haha but seriously. the only thing which can save you for being "sucked off" is just metta to yourself. Thinking that other people suck your energy is rather psychological case which needs treatment. Nobody can suck you qi unless they know specific ways to do so. They must be really good proficient with their mastery of mind and body. No regular people can suck your energy besides sexual methods - even there they needs skills and mastery so I would rather suggest some tonics for your shen so you can balance yourself.
I have left out of your quote a part of it which I hope you will have the sense to amend. Among other things it has the effect of focusing the conversation on naughty language rather then the more substantive issue that you completely dismissed this woman's experience, and give advice that might be appropriate for someone who can't "distinguish . . . a practitioner ( their weiqi field is a number one indicator if he is a practitioner or not)", it probably is not good advice for a person who can make such a distinction. I might have taken her complaint lightly if I hadn't been intrigued by this and did a little digging into her posts to find that she studies Qigong healing with an eminent teacher, and is probably surrounded by immature males who could really do a number on someone if they had a mind to do so. Your recommendation of White Tigress teachings might be more appropriate than you seem to laughingly dismiss, though not exactly what I might recommend, but I don't think it's what she wants anyway.
Please post your opinion on the topic.
Personal background: I get vampired by males all the time and it leads me to hone my defensive skills. Yet at the same time on a mental level it sends me into rage that someone can violate me in "public"*, and think it is appropriate. Because to me it feels like an acid being poured on me, it is painful like hell and its burning - thus, my reaction to outside people looks rather weird. Yet to the "vampire" I think it adds extra "fun". I am doing the defense by simply energetically chopping their dick off ( I know it's extreme, but when that much of a turbid Qi is attacking you, you have limited time to think about "love and light", about how they are in "internal pain" and all other new age BS). Their vampiring drains me significantly and I have certain symptoms later to know how bad "vampiring" was.
Note, I do distinguish between a practitioner ( their weiqi field is a number one indicator if he is a practitioner or not) and some random sex strapped guy who just happen to see a girl. It is the first ones who make me wonder about their path. I.e. where in the book does it say random vampiring leads to enlightenment? If you are so skilled in energy stuff, why don't you get a good girl and practice with her? Why do this random escapades?
*I am still sitting with this one. Should I be in rage that someone is hurting me, or should I train myself to "accept it" and thus eliminate rage?
Looking forward to hear your experiences. ( Bold Emphasis mine, ZYD)
As she says we are dealing with, at the very least some serious energy gropping, resulting in anger "that someone can violate me in "public", and I completely understand her rage and frustration about that. I can understand how this could find a suitable expression in "energetically chopping their dick off", though I would be sorely tempted to pull out my old Maude Frikert imitation:
and say, "I just want to whack their peepee.", but that's just me, as I have said before I have an odd sense of humor, as well as a curious set of comic voices I can imitate and my Maude Frikert was very good, but would be lost on most people today.
I hope that we will continue to get some of the good serious responses that we have gotten to this thread, and that SeekerOfHealing can avoid being suspended again, because on one level Metta isn't bad advice and not exactly New Age either, I have never met a metta I didn't like, kind of a meta comment on the whole business, but that naughty language, tsk tsk. Oh, and tonifying shen without clearing the root of the anger in the liver is not necessarily good idea, so Xue Fu Zhu Yu Wan comes to mind as an interesting way to get outside of the anger and into a more positive state of xin in order to deal more effectively with the matter.