What to do when things go wrong ?

[Shad282]

In the last week, things were going wrong or at least not going in the way that the people desire.

Stuff happening to me and to others i know, in a weird way.

 

I usually see the relationship of cause and effect among things and can notice what my mind or the other person's mind was thinking or focusing on, that lead to an event to happen.

but seems like these sudden events and situations are just appearing out of nowhere sometimes. 

even tho. i tried to look for the resistance, aversion or craving that lead to such events to happen, was kinda hard to see. maybe it is my mind state that is cluttered or something.

 

letting go of looking for the reason, i was wondering how to solve the events or issues that appeared suddenly into my journey?

 

I m trying not to resist and go with the flow and allow things to be and just be still and optimistic.

even tho I did notice a change in the flow and change in the outcome of the events but it seems it is fluctuating and not maintain the desired outcome or less undesired outcome to stay.

It is kind of a crucial and critical event that is happening and that is why i m asking for help.

 

Thank you ! <3 

[roger]

"Whisper words of wisdom.....let it be." -The Beatles

 

My suggestion is to just accept the whole mess as it is, and to not see it as a real problem.

 

You don't have to DO anything to solve the problem- as The Beatles said, let it be.

[RiverSnake]

Going with the flow has its merits. But also consider what actions you can take in balancing the situation in your favor. Relax, let go of frustration.....as it inhibits ones ability to handle the situation. There is a time to be pro-active and other times to be passive. Observe the situation and revolve between whatever approach is best in the shifting circumstances. Approach life strategically....use only the neccesary amount of effort to solve each situation...and no more than that.

Edited May 26, 2016 by OldChi

[Marblehead]

Sometimes the cause of an effect is not a single cause but many little causes that are seemingly unrelated.  But when all the little causes are put in the same basket they create an effect.

 

Oftentimes we can never find a cause for an effect.  In cases such as this, yes, let it be.

 

However, if the effect has caused a problem in the present we might be able to stop or change the direction of the process.  This requires action, of course.  Can't be going with the flow when are should be doing something.

[Junko]

Well, when things go wrong, most of all, try to think to do RIGHT.Then if you don't know what is right thing to do, you have a problem.....problems are here to solve.So have faith and take your time.

[thelerner]

Two Maxims I tell myself, maybe they're relevant:

 

1> Shit happens,

it just does,

sometimes good things

can come of shit.

 

2>In the face of tragedy, 

don't ask why,

ask how can I help? 

[C T]

If you can change things around, there is nothing to worry about. 

 

If things are beyond your control, worrying won't revert control back to you. 

It only serves to distort things even more. 

 

Either way... no worries. 

[Marblehead]

Either way... no worries. 

What?  Me worry?

[steve]

In the last week, things were going wrong or at least not going in the way that the people desire.

Stuff happening to me and to others i know, in a weird way.

 

I usually see the relationship of cause and effect among things and can notice what my mind or the other person's mind was thinking or focusing on, that lead to an event to happen.

but seems like these sudden events and situations are just appearing out of nowhere sometimes. 

even tho. i tried to look for the resistance, aversion or craving that lead to such events to happen, was kinda hard to see. maybe it is my mind state that is cluttered or something.

 

letting go of looking for the reason, i was wondering how to solve the events or issues that appeared suddenly into my journey?

 

I m trying not to resist and go with the flow and allow things to be and just be still and optimistic.

even tho I did notice a change in the flow and change in the outcome of the events but it seems it is fluctuating and not maintain the desired outcome or less undesired outcome to stay.

It is kind of a crucial and critical event that is happening and that is why i m asking for help.

 

Thank you ! <3 

 

My approach lately, for myself, has been to become aware of and connect with the space and stillness around the issues, the people, and within the one who needs to solve and change things. When the moment arrives to act, trust your values.

Warm regards

_/\_

[Bearded Dragon]

Maybe you're waiting for your bus and you get hit by it instead. Perhaps the driver keeps going and you stick to the front all the way to your destination. It's all about attitude, haha.

 

I think it was Mooji that said "When you feel resistance you're on to something". Change your attitude to a situation. Stick with it, but give yourself some breathing room. Ride it out and the situation will resolve and you'll be more refined as a result.

 

Things may feel wrong, but they aren't. They aren't good either. Your job is to just observe over many years and eventually maturity will develop in the same way it has since childhood..... on its own. The only trap is getting caught up in the mess.

[RigdzinTrinley]

maybe question the little voice in the upper storeys who decided that "it went wrong" - why it went wrong exactly and what that actually means "it went wrong"?

 

because somehow "it" is never right or wrong in the final analysis

 

I am pretty sure that voice can't give you a sufficient answer and when it becomes "quiet" simply rest there and observe "fundamentally there is no problem"

 

EDIT: but of course I agree that skillful action is important as well - but usually most problems are mind-made and old karmic patterns

Edited May 27, 2016 by RigdzinTrinley

[ChiForce]

Maybe things weren't going wrong but they are unfolding the way they have been caused.  And your expectation of them was incorrect due to your own ego/subject interference. 

 

Besides, if your own insight assessment is correct, you would have seen the outcomes long ago.  I know I would....in a dream message form. 

[ChiForce]

maybe question the little voice in the upper storeys who decided that "it went wrong" - why it went wrong exactly and what that actually means "it went wrong"?

 

because somehow "it" is never right or wrong in the final analysis

 

I am pretty sure that voice can't give you a sufficient answer and when it becomes "quiet" simply rest there and observe "fundamentally there is no problem"

 

EDIT: but of course I agree that skillful action is important as well - but usually most problems are mind-made and old karmic patterns

Yeah, that's about it...it went wrong because it didn't unfold the way the OP planned or deliberately planned.  Yeah, is a bitch when that happens....   Oh well....

Edited May 28, 2016 by ChiForce

[noonespecial]

I m trying not to resist and go with the flow 

 

Then dont resist. 

[Teddy]

Only dead fish go with the flow.