ZYD said: ".....take an inventory of all the things that you do believe and then assume that you are wrong about them"
".....take an inventory of everything you don't believe and assume that you are wrong about them"
I remember one day when I first walked into Alcoholics Anonymous and laughed out loud when I had the realization "Everything I've come to believe to this point in my life is Wrong!" It was actually funny. Liberatingly funny.
I would add something else to this - once you've seen the areas in your life that you've gone wrong, said something wrong, did something hurtful - write down this information so that your brain doesn't conveniently forget it. Remember who is was that you wronged. Because in order to set yourself right, you will need to do the right thing - which is to try and rectify the situation, even if it's by an apology to someone from years ago.
Just a glimpse into my own personal story (which is the story of another life altogether, I am no longer this person) - when I was on the police department, I had a way of sleeping with just about every male partner I ever worked with. The real truth of the matter was that I didn't know how to say No to any man because I had no self esteem whatsoever.
Well, upon becoming sober, I suddenly realized just how many countless wives I had 'hurt' by sleeping with their husbands. There was no way for me to actually make amends to these people, obviously - most didn't know this had happened. But my form of amend was to say to myself Never Again! Never Again sleep with anybody's husband! This seems to have worked to alleviate the guilt I could have borne. But I have changed my thoughts, my actions, my insides, and am no longer that poor wretch any longer.
The hardest apologies yield the most inner mileage. Even if somebody else had started the dynamic, the only side of the street we're interested in sweeping off is our own. It doesn't matter whether the other person accepts the apology, or whether they're still angry about it. More often than not, I've found that most people don't even remember what you're talking about, lol! But this is a clearing out process so dynamic and so thorough that it will change your karma immediately, change your life immediately.
The hard part is the beginning. Those are the most glaring discoveries, the most painful to realize, the hardest to apologize for. But the liberation received is beyond words. As the years go on, my Aha!'s aren't as big and frequent as they used to be, but they do come once in a while. I've been doing the inner tracking for 32 years (A Castaneda expression, but the same thing)
I think it's just about being the best person we can be.